"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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One Night Stand Fail

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So I really ****ed it up this time. I actually never had a one night stand before. So I went out with this girl, chubby 6.0, we got very drunk together and ended up in HER bed.

We started kissing a little, you know, doing some foreplay. But I was so drunk, that my **** didn't go stiff. So I really felt bad, and stopped the whole thing. I was getting sleepy/sick anyway.

So next morning I felt really sick, because of the alcohol. Of course, nothing changed with the **** problem. So she kicked me out in the afternoon and that was it!

I'm not sure if it's purely because of the alcohol. She was fooling around with her ex the night at the bar, so that bothered me too (although it was none of my business), and I know she is dating another guy. Kind of a slut, I think.

Well, anyway: at least my mates had a good laugh.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I had a night like that once...girl was better looking. :p

Picked her up in a nightclub...she and her friends were in town from just north of DC (about an hour away) and had a hotel room in-town, but I couldn't f**k her with her friends there, so we drove to her place only to find she had left her keys back in Baltimore. I drove BACK into town, we got her keys, then I drove BACK to her place. I was so totally beat by the time we got back around 3 in the morning that I could barely get it up at all.

I stayed that night and the next morning I just left, I was so embarassed.

Just chalk it up to experience. Slvtty girls know that stuff like that can happen, it's a roll of the dice. It's not like she knows everyone in the club and is going to go around telling them how crummy a lay you were.

Now if it happens a LOT, then word will get around. Make sure you're able to perform next time. ;)
 

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Massive amounts of booze and being able to keep it up for any useful period don't go together.

And even if you can, you're normally too drunk to feel anything.

I like to think of it as mental contraception. My body is basically saying I'm too drunk to have picked up anyone worth a damn, so it's not even going to attempt to redirect blood flow for more than five minutes.

And on the occasions that's happened...it's generally right.

If you're too drunk to see your one night stand without a hazy blur, you're too drunk to work out if they're worth sleeping with.
 

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were you attracted to her?

I don't think you can just attribute this to booze alone.

did you have her suck your C@ck?

This has happened tome in the past, but it is usually down to the fact I'm not attracted to the girl - but if she knows what she's doing, she can work you into the mood.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Now if it happens a LOT, then word will get around. Make sure you're able to perform next time.
Yes! That puts extra pressure on me though... ;)

Massive amounts of booze and being able to keep it up for any useful period don't go together.
Has happened to me on more than one occasion.
Heavy drinking + very late night = no hard-on
Yeah. But I talked to some friends about this, and like 60/40 agreed on this one, and the other 40/60 said that in their experiences alcohol has never made a difference. They never experienced not being able to perform. Guess they have a higher libido or something, or they are much more comfortable with having one night stands.

The chubby 6.0 might have had an effect...
were you attracted to her?

I don't think you can just attribute this to booze alone.
Being sober again, I really can't say I am attracted to her. Oh and she's American, haha (not that this has anything to do with it). We don't see many American girls here...

Blessing in disguise mate.
You think so? :)
 

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Yeah, dude...probably was a blessing in disguise. :p

She doesn't necessarily sound like high-grade ass in any aspect, but don't feel BAD about it. Use it as a confidence booster that you COULD have closed...and forget about it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Here's an example page listing some possible causes

http://www.mydr.com.au/sexual-health/impotence-causes

I think in your case, it was the booze plus anxiety because you were going to bang a girl below your usual standards.

Happens to every bloke once or twice, get over it and move on, but if keeps happening you'll probably want to look into it further.
 

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Thanks! I appreciate you answers ;).

I think it was booze + anxiety. It was the first sexual encounter since my break up last year, so that could explain the anxiety.

I quit masturbating and porn too. I was kind of addicted to that stuff for many years (guess I still am), and almost needed it everyday before bed. Or sometimes out of boredom. I'm on my 8th day now and I must say it feels great.
 
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