Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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One night can change your life

Daruff12

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This is just to introduce myself. So im gonna keep all these little facts short.

I am your standard AFC.

I've been lurking these boards for a little while.

I'm def not bad looking at all and I do ok but ive always had anxiety about approaching and calling and closing... well you know AFC!!

I went out last week with an old friend of mine that is a natural DJ. We had a blast and I learned alot.

Went out last night with my roomate (even bigger afc than me!!). and I stepped completely out of my comfort zone. I approached every set I saw that didnt have guys with them. Must have been at least 20!

I only got 1 number and took 2 of the most harsh rejections I ever took.

Feels awesome!

Thx guys.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Nice job man.



... I'd be interested in hearing what how the rejections went? :D
 

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If you aren't getting rejected at least some of the time then you aren't doing it right. Although I would like to hear details too :D .
 

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1. I was BS'ing wit HB5 and HB7, that was the first approach I made. We were having an awesome time laughing our arses off and kino'ing like crazy. I left wit no numbers. Few hours later they were at the same table with their hb9 friend... so I go back over. Things dont go as well this time so I leave after a quick minute. As im leaving hb9 catches up to me and taps me on the shoulder.... Im thinking, "sweeeet". She says with a straight face "were not fvkin interested, dont come back over here."
I thought I had a real bad fear of rejection, but this didnt kill me and I walked away smiling.

2. HB8 outside smoking: I say "Hey whats ur name? Here by yourself?"
I get... "im here with my bf, and your lame" This might have been due to me smiling too much. For some reason when I get nervous I cheese hard.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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mikeyb

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Good news is, you're unlikely to get worse rejections than that. So now you "survived" them and moved on, you can be that much more confident.
 
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