One More Meeting To Make A Date

[BlueAlpha1]

There's a 23 year old gothic chick who cuts my hair. After 3 haircuts and slowly opening her up a little more each visit with ****y & funny I finally number closed the last time.

The first time I texted her, she was standoffish and flakey and I was prepared to chalk her reciprocation up to working for a tip, but last week she texted me that she was leaving the shop and to come see her one more time so she could show another barber what to do. I told her I'd be in but would like to see her again and would pay her good money to cut my hair on her own time because she does a good job. At that point she switched off the flaky button and told me "after hearing your travel stories I really want to keep in touch if that's ok with you because I'm going to start traveling in 2016 just like you suggested. : p " I was constantly hitting her with all some great (mostly true) stories about the road including my month long tour of Europe and she left it at "I'm open to travel buddies so you should keep me in mind next year when you go places."

It's worth noting all her responses are quick, and sometimes under a minute. Obviously with the nature of how we met there's enough kino to get by so far (like her shampooing my hair for 15 minutes.)

I always dress well when I go in there and can't think of a time where I spit bad game. On the other hand the one time I suggested we hang out (as in sometime actually this year like an upcoming weekend) she was unresponsive, so I'm not putting myself out there again but I have the opportunity to leave an impression with the ball in her court when I go in for one more cut next weekend. Any thoughts?

 

[Harry Wilmington]

This already looks weak.... scratch that: YOU are already making yourself look weak to this chick.

The first time you texted her... what was it about? Were you trying to do some lame kind of "rapport-building" or did you hit her up and ask her for an actual DATE?

When you hit her up, did you ask her to "hang out" or was it for an actual DATE? Girls aren't trying to just "hang out" with dudes, it looks and sounds weak. Also, weekend dates for first dates are no-no's - stick to weekdays for the first few date invites.

Anyway... now that she's leaving the shop, it's actually the perfect time to ask her on an actual DATE since you don't risk running into her at the shop and having it get all weird should the date not work out. Hit her up (ideally via a PHONE CALL) and say "Hey - so, now that you're not working at the shop, I was hoping to take you out sometime. I found (activity to get into - dinner, hiking trail, etc.) and wanted to take you sometime this week - I currently have Tuesday and Thursday open, which would work better for you?" And then wait to see what she says. Hope this helps!