ThatGuyOverThere
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For the past several months, I've had one-itis symptoms for two different girls in my last-period class. Both girls (let's call them A and B) I met only this year.
Girl A only just got out of a three year relationship about a month ago with one of my friends and teammates (we aren't close friends, which explains why I didn't know his girlfriend until this year). Anyway, I owe this girl a lot, as it is because of her that I have become much more comfortable with kino. She has only had one boyfriend in her life, but she is the type of girl that is very touchy-feely and flirty with almost everyone. She wasn't a threat (she was already taken), so I used her to become more comfortable with flirting. Now, the kino has escalated significantly, and we constantly mess around with each other. When other people comment on our flirting, she often will smile and jokingly talk about "how badly she wants me", and even detailed an imaginary memory where we hooked up. I haven't made a move for several reasons. First, is the usual fear of rejection. Second, is the fear that if I tried and got rejected, things would be awkward to the point that it ruins our friendship. Third, she seems to be this way towards guys in general (though she is not a slut, I'm sure of it).
Girl B is a different story. While Girl A has a much more fun personality than Girl B, B is more attractive than A. At the beginning of the year, for the most part, I didn't pay much attention to Girl B, as she is fairly quiet when meeting new people. However, one day she suddenly started acting interested in me, giving me lots of attention and laughing at almost everything I was saying. It was obvious to the point that I became interested, and we began to flirt a lot. Other people started commenting on the "obvious" sexual tension between us, and offered to leave the room so we could "make out in peace". However, this girl liked to play mind games, or so it seemed. One day she would show all the signs of interest, but the next day they would all be gone. She did this on and off, and she still does. I honestly think this girl might be a schizo, as one day she will be hyper, excited, and giggle every few seconds while the next day she will be extremely spacey, unemotional, and uncaring. As you can imagine, this confused and frustrated me, and she has annoyed the hell out of me ever since. Yet I still can't stop thinking about her, as those days where she is fun throw my mind into the same, never-ending cycle. I also made the mistake of becoming partners with her the rest of the year, so I can't solve the problem by walking away.
I want to put an end to this, as both girls are on my mind constantly and I don't like it. There have been days when I have flip-flopped back and forth on who I thought I liked more. The only positives to come out of this one-itis is that I've noticed increased interest levels in my interactions with other girls, as I'm less self-conscious around them due to my focused attention on these two girls. Any advice would be appreciated.
Girl A only just got out of a three year relationship about a month ago with one of my friends and teammates (we aren't close friends, which explains why I didn't know his girlfriend until this year). Anyway, I owe this girl a lot, as it is because of her that I have become much more comfortable with kino. She has only had one boyfriend in her life, but she is the type of girl that is very touchy-feely and flirty with almost everyone. She wasn't a threat (she was already taken), so I used her to become more comfortable with flirting. Now, the kino has escalated significantly, and we constantly mess around with each other. When other people comment on our flirting, she often will smile and jokingly talk about "how badly she wants me", and even detailed an imaginary memory where we hooked up. I haven't made a move for several reasons. First, is the usual fear of rejection. Second, is the fear that if I tried and got rejected, things would be awkward to the point that it ruins our friendship. Third, she seems to be this way towards guys in general (though she is not a slut, I'm sure of it).
Girl B is a different story. While Girl A has a much more fun personality than Girl B, B is more attractive than A. At the beginning of the year, for the most part, I didn't pay much attention to Girl B, as she is fairly quiet when meeting new people. However, one day she suddenly started acting interested in me, giving me lots of attention and laughing at almost everything I was saying. It was obvious to the point that I became interested, and we began to flirt a lot. Other people started commenting on the "obvious" sexual tension between us, and offered to leave the room so we could "make out in peace". However, this girl liked to play mind games, or so it seemed. One day she would show all the signs of interest, but the next day they would all be gone. She did this on and off, and she still does. I honestly think this girl might be a schizo, as one day she will be hyper, excited, and giggle every few seconds while the next day she will be extremely spacey, unemotional, and uncaring. As you can imagine, this confused and frustrated me, and she has annoyed the hell out of me ever since. Yet I still can't stop thinking about her, as those days where she is fun throw my mind into the same, never-ending cycle. I also made the mistake of becoming partners with her the rest of the year, so I can't solve the problem by walking away.
I want to put an end to this, as both girls are on my mind constantly and I don't like it. There have been days when I have flip-flopped back and forth on who I thought I liked more. The only positives to come out of this one-itis is that I've noticed increased interest levels in my interactions with other girls, as I'm less self-conscious around them due to my focused attention on these two girls. Any advice would be appreciated.
