aztec300zx
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I've read the faqs and I am a frequent viewer of this website (on here probably 4 hours or so a week).
Heres my situations, first off I go out often (2-4 times a week) always out to the bars. I am a single male thats 25 that lives alone so unless I go out I get very bored at home :0) Anyways I always frequent the same 3-4 bars that are always out of town. Prior to this year I had only seriously dated 3 girls- one lasted for roughly 2.5 years (we will get to her later) while the others lasted no longer than a few months. And I only have had sexual relations with 1 girl (the 2.5 year one)
This year has really been a coming out sort of year for me, as I have frequently dated about 6 girls over the course of the year. But nothing really extended out to more than 3 weeks or so, of spending a lot of time together. Between those six girls I still hang out with those girls (maybe once a month). The girls still show some attraction because they call or text a few times a week, but I could really care to have a relationship. I have seriously found no girl that can keep my interest to herself for more than 2 weeks.
So - If no girl attracts me for more than 2 weeks deeply I often find myself looking for other girls. I dont really mind this as other girls still like me somewhat its just that I am loading up the playing field of "possibles" I guess you could say. But it has been so long since I have "been" with someone its hard to not act eager, or shy about sex. How can I get over this hump? I have read the faq and the bible but I am just diffrent for some reason :0(
Getting girls to stay over at my place is cakewalk, as with 3 of the girls stayed at my place on the second date, but nothing ever escalated beyond making out like high school kids (I am 25 btw). One girl that comes to mind as being the funniest situation. We go out on our second date, she decides to spend the nite. She is all lovey during the date and affectionate and lots of kino going on. Then we go back to my place, head to my bedroom. I head to the other room to grab a t shirt for her. I come back, she is buck (still has panties on only), refuses the shirt and tells me to get into bed. I hop in, start to come onto her, and then she asks for a seperate blanket? So I decided to sleep in the living room that nite.
The main thing that is killing me I think is that because of the 1 relationship that ended like almost 3 years ago now. That was the girl that I was with for roughly 2.5 years. Keep in mind she was the only girl I have ever had a sexual relationship with. When we were together we were still both very immature. Looking back now as an adult I realized how much I treated her like crap even though she tried to give it all it seems. She moved away and went to college - soon after we broke up. She was cheating on me and so we both parted our seperate ways. But still like every few months I will have these crazy dreams that I catch up with her again and I really do realize that I want to try everything again. I do not know if this is really what I want or just to be able to apologize to the girl, for being such a **** earlier on in life. Over the course of changing cell phone companies I have lost her number and none of her friends back then talk to me anymore, so there is nothing I can really do about it. Is there any way to possibly get over her? These dreams are really intense to the point to where I wake up and I perfectly remember everything as if it did happen in real life.
Heres my situations, first off I go out often (2-4 times a week) always out to the bars. I am a single male thats 25 that lives alone so unless I go out I get very bored at home :0) Anyways I always frequent the same 3-4 bars that are always out of town. Prior to this year I had only seriously dated 3 girls- one lasted for roughly 2.5 years (we will get to her later) while the others lasted no longer than a few months. And I only have had sexual relations with 1 girl (the 2.5 year one)
This year has really been a coming out sort of year for me, as I have frequently dated about 6 girls over the course of the year. But nothing really extended out to more than 3 weeks or so, of spending a lot of time together. Between those six girls I still hang out with those girls (maybe once a month). The girls still show some attraction because they call or text a few times a week, but I could really care to have a relationship. I have seriously found no girl that can keep my interest to herself for more than 2 weeks.
So - If no girl attracts me for more than 2 weeks deeply I often find myself looking for other girls. I dont really mind this as other girls still like me somewhat its just that I am loading up the playing field of "possibles" I guess you could say. But it has been so long since I have "been" with someone its hard to not act eager, or shy about sex. How can I get over this hump? I have read the faq and the bible but I am just diffrent for some reason :0(
Getting girls to stay over at my place is cakewalk, as with 3 of the girls stayed at my place on the second date, but nothing ever escalated beyond making out like high school kids (I am 25 btw). One girl that comes to mind as being the funniest situation. We go out on our second date, she decides to spend the nite. She is all lovey during the date and affectionate and lots of kino going on. Then we go back to my place, head to my bedroom. I head to the other room to grab a t shirt for her. I come back, she is buck (still has panties on only), refuses the shirt and tells me to get into bed. I hop in, start to come onto her, and then she asks for a seperate blanket? So I decided to sleep in the living room that nite.
The main thing that is killing me I think is that because of the 1 relationship that ended like almost 3 years ago now. That was the girl that I was with for roughly 2.5 years. Keep in mind she was the only girl I have ever had a sexual relationship with. When we were together we were still both very immature. Looking back now as an adult I realized how much I treated her like crap even though she tried to give it all it seems. She moved away and went to college - soon after we broke up. She was cheating on me and so we both parted our seperate ways. But still like every few months I will have these crazy dreams that I catch up with her again and I really do realize that I want to try everything again. I do not know if this is really what I want or just to be able to apologize to the girl, for being such a **** earlier on in life. Over the course of changing cell phone companies I have lost her number and none of her friends back then talk to me anymore, so there is nothing I can really do about it. Is there any way to possibly get over her? These dreams are really intense to the point to where I wake up and I perfectly remember everything as if it did happen in real life.