"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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One-itis..All I can say is daymn!

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Well it's always been a challenge fighting it, but yet again I've fallen into what I now call the "trap". She says shes got feelings for me but she has a thing for this other dude as well. She's never met the guy neither and she said she wants to meet him before she makes decision. The way i see it is that im the "fall back guy" and I'm not second best to anyone. We hang out and everything at school sometimes outside of school, kino is there, convos are good, and we do enjoy each others company.

We've become good friends over the pass months and shes just beginning to flirt with me.

Well I guess what I'm tryna ask is, is there any chance with this girl? If you guys need more info. just ask.

-Precison

PS. The BootCamps helping keep her off my mind really well...at least a lot less than normal:rockon:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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if she really wanted you, she wouldn't be telling you her feelings about someone else.
 

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dude dont stand for that sh!t. You should always be first. If i were you i wouldnt act like i would stick around. just say well i guess thats how you feel. so i dont want that so im done with you (not in those exact words but something liek that.) leave her right now before she meets that dude and see what she does. My ex pulled the same sh!t in the beginning i won of course but i was like make up your mind and if you dont know i aint making the decision for you but i will walk away from you. give them a sense of loss. she chose me basically right after i said that. if she gives you bullsh!t just walk shell come after you. right now shes giving you a load of it so walk just to test her.
 

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You have a good read on the situation. Never be a woman's backup plan.

Stop spending time getting to know her and focus on other women. The more you "get to know her" the more you will become her friend or her puppy dog on a rope.

Only spend quaility time with her if its going somewhere in a sexual/flirtatious way.
 

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Guess the majority rules. Walking shouldn't be too hard, I'm better than this. It's true, if she really does feel the way she feels she wouldn't want me to walk.

Wiseman, yea I told her about that BS with her talking about other dudes...she stopped.

Thanks fellas
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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flexion_ said:
You have a good read on the situation. Never be a woman's backup plan.

Stop spending time getting to know her and focus on other women. The more you "get to know her" the more you will become her friend or her puppy dog on a rope.

Only spend quaility with her its going somewhere in a sexual/flirtatious way.
Thanks yea. I've come a long way but still have a longgggg way to go. Yea I'm not anyones puppy dog and the time we do spend together does have some flirting here and there, but I'll still say its insignificant IMO. Thanks flexion.
 

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Lets dig this one up, one last note of advice/criticism wanted.

I was feeling up to it on giving her some space. Feeling a whole lot better about myself these days and each day it gets better and better. No more worrying over stupid little things, that make no sense. Whatever happens is gonna happen regardless. Anyhow sorry bout the long post thats about the be written, here goes.

Gave her, some space for some time. Cut the talking out for the most part. Still had a little convo here and there, cuase things in general within the family and school have been hectic. Last two days of school we got a lot closer than we'd ever been.

I started off getting into a little play fight with her over my phone. Took a picture of her and it came out funny. So we messed around for a few, it was on campus so nothing could really happen any further than what was going on. Later on met up with her to helping out some friends on a project and we ended up having so more fun. Day after I saw her for a few mins, at most a half hour late in the day, had some more fun with her kino-wise.

Yesterday we go to the city and its raining so threw mah hand around her and stayed under the umbrella yada yada yada. Took her almost all the way home. I'm pretty sure I was getting IOI's like playing with her hair, the kino going back and forth, she kept on saying i was makin her laugh too much(Cause she kept on dropping her umbrella and bag), but the one thing she wouldn't do was look me in the eye. Now she is a shy girl, but i dont think shes that shy.

Took her to her stop and went on my way, cheek kiss and the day ended there. I wanted to make a move because its about damn time, but the eye thing threw me off; along with her saying shes waiting for this guy that shes never met.

Did i make a mistake or do the right thing by not going in for a kiss goodbye? Now I'm just about ready to leave her behind cause I've done all I'm willing to do. If you guys think a kiss was feasable, then maybe we could hook up once more. If not I'm done with her.

Criticism and advice welcome. If I f*cked up I wanna know, cause its one mistake I don't want to make again.

Precision
 

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you are wasting your time...
ONE-ITIES STROKE AGAIN.
let her go man... she is just using you because she likes your attention. thats all.
do yourself a favor and concentrate your time and effort to other girls. its the best you can do for yoursefl.
in this case you are working in a "damage zone". your only chance to get what you wanted occured within the first 2 weeks. you lost your case and now she wants you as a friend.
dont waste your time.
dont even go for it because you are due for a big dissappointment.
follow our advise and dont put all the eggs in the same basket.
go to the MATURE DJS FORUM AND CHECK rollo's tomassi last post on rolling plates. .
 

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librito said:
you are wasting your time...
ONE-ITIES STROKE AGAIN.
let her go man... she is just using you because she likes your attention. thats all.
do yourself a favor and concentrate your time and effort to other girls. its the best you can do for yoursefl.
in this case you are working in a "damage zone". your only chance to get what you wanted occured within the first 2 weeks. you lost your case and now she wants you as a friend.
dont waste your time.
dont even go for it because you are due for a big dissappointment.
follow our advise and dont put all the eggs in the same basket.
go to the MATURE DJS FORUM AND CHECK rollo's tomassi last post on rolling plates. .
Thanks for the words. All of a sudden shes acting like the biggest b!tch imaginable. It's kind of crazy, no wonder I nick-named her "Mood Swings". Today it seems like something bit her butt and has yet to let go.

Shes making this a whole lot easier than a I thought. Shes crazy to think I'ma put up with that sh!t. Time to move on to bigger better things, heading over to check out that thread now. :up:
 
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