"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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One day you just reach a point...

squirrels

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...after you've dated so many women, experienced a bunch of things, that you realize your sexual "resume" is beyond reproach. That you've finally discovered the truth about how women think about love. You realize and accept your own sexual energy and that of those around you and you start to realize that attracting women is only as hard as you and the woman make it.

Maybe you haven't screwed a thousand women, you may not be a "pick-up artist". No, you're never going to attract EVERY woman you meet. You WILL be able to attract any girl you SHOULD be able to attract, all the ones who you ever saw during your AFC days, like back in school, and sat around wondering what you could do to get them while the opportunity passed you by. Those girls are all at your fingertips now, and then some.

You'll realize that a lot of the things in life you want are only as hard as you make them, as you look back and realize exactly how far you've come. Older women, younger women, tall women, short women, thin women, thick women, blondes, brunettes, redheads, redheads, single girls, married girls, divorced girls, girls with boyfriends, mothers, rich girls, poor girls, smart girls, dumb girls, fun girls, boring girls, innocent girls, slvts...

Some people play this game forever and never realize exactly how far they've come. They even GET women on a regular basis, but they still believe in their hearts that they are chumps...that somehow they don't DESERVE to be with the women they're attracting. And those women eventually sense this and go as quickly as they came.

But sooner or later you're going to look back and realize this whole getting-girls thing is just a GAME. That as long as you have the WILL to succeed with women, you have the ABILITY. YOU can easily become desirable and attractive to women.

Once you reach that point, the point when you actually realize you DESERVE the company of a lovely lady or three, the "body count", how many girls you've had or your success or failure with any one of those women...they just don't matter. You can get the girls you really want...the rest is just academic.

At that point, you can start to ask yourself the one question that you never felt like you deserved to ask yourself before, because you finally know that YOU DO have the "right" to choose your own answer...

WHAT DO YOU WANT?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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interesting. squirrels, are you suggesting you've reached this point?
 

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Right right, somewhere along the line, every man should ask himself this, What do I want?

and then go for that...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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