One... big kind of thing

[Pozitron]

Hi all!
Now maybe you've been through this, maybe not.
What can you do if you aren't hard enough during sex?
First you are.. but after you take all your clothes off and after you put it on.. you reach that period... then at best you're semi-hard.
So?

 

[European-DJ]

Are you felling shy? Do you drink a lot of alcohol? Are you experienced? Watch lots of porn? Masturbate a lot?

Give us some info, and it will be easier to give an answer - I have had similar problems due to alcohol, shyness and porn.

 

[GotED?]

What is your age too, that goes into a huge effect.

Lack of sleep also depletes your performance energy. I am 40 and once I get hard (super hard!), my gf better hop on it because it won't be there forever.

However, lack of sleep and if you do not have a strong emotional connection or attraction to the woman, will also reduce your length of time you stay hard. If she 'helps' you then that will be of huge assistance (no pun intended). Helps meaning, she grabs you right there and try a different 'stroke' per say LOL

With respect,

Exodus

 

[Pozitron]

Yea guys..
so I'm 18 still. Yesterday was the first time for me and her that is. I am attracted to her and we have an emotional connection. I love her.
Might be cause of porn or masturbation. It's the thing I am pointing fingers now..

 

[GotED?]

Oh dude, first time and the next 10 times is going to be very uncomfortable, but a few months down the line you are going to feel less inhibited by inexperience, shyness, performance anxiety, etc.

As long as you have deep connection with each other, it will only become better and better.

RELAX is the key - joke around, laugh, etc before you actually do the act will help greatly.

In the end, sexual arousal is 100% mental. Parapalegic people who have nerve damage to the arousal region of the penis can not get hard no matter how hard it is done physically. It all comes from the mind.

With respect,

Exodus

 

[Greasy Pig]

I am 40 and once I get hard (super hard!), my gf better hop on it because it won't be there forever.

I'm the same. I'll be getting and heavy with my GF, be super hard and ready to go and she'll have to go take a p!ss or run to the linen cupboard to grab a towel for a cvm rag. By the time she gets back, I'm at half mast.

I'm 37 and sometimes I can fvck like a porn star and other times - such as in the above scenario - I struggle.
But I've had good results when we rest for a bit and she starts massaging my balls for some reason.

Don't freak out, OP. As GotEd? said, it's all psychological. Just try to relax and let your brain and body do what it's supposed to without overthinking it.

I've also found that getting a woman really worked up during foreplay affects my state of mind. If I can tell she's getting extremely horny and shows me she really NEEDS to be fvcked, it gives me a big confidence boost to do my thing. So don't underestimate the powerful effect of hearing a woman breathe faster, moan, run her fingers through your hair, kissing you more deeply and getting extremely wet.
And don't be afraid to grab her hand, put in on your dong and get her to give you a crank.

 

[GotED?]

I'm the same. I'll be getting and heavy with my GF, be super hard and ready to go and she'll have to go take a p!ss or run to the linen cupboard to grab a towel for a cvm rag. By the time she gets back, I'm at half mast.

LOL!!

So true....

Aging with grace.

 

[Pozitron]

Great stuff here!
Yeah.. of course it was inexperience... as I was trying to.. well, things were tensed you know. Like -all eyes on you now- . Add to that the fact that we were under the sheets (darker - it was in the middle of the day) and it was really hot... yea
So I really don't know when next time it will be.
I'll try to relax..
Till then I wanna stop all porn/ masturbation.. everything except the real deal.. when it will happen next.

And yeah.. it's true. You get all hot when you see she is extremely turned on. Damn.. incredible..

 

[Zerro]

I've also found that getting a woman really worked up during foreplay affects my state of mind. If I can tell she's getting extremely horny and shows me she really NEEDS to be fvcked, it gives me a big confidence boost to do my thing. So don't underestimate the powerful effect of hearing a woman breathe faster, moan, run her fingers through your hair, kissing you more deeply and getting extremely wet.
And don't be afraid to grab her hand, put in on your dong and get her to give you a crank.

Exactly, foreplay isn't just for the woman's benefit. Last time I had trouble keeping it up with a new woman I decided to just go down on her so at least one way or another she'd get off. She reacted so positively that I had no problems keeping it hard after that.