"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Once u go bareback u never go back! lol

Jmasta23

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Guys, just a quick question..The girlfriend and I have had sex without a condom for the past few weeks..*I know I know its a bad thing* (Shes on the pill by the way) however the last few times shes been asking me to wear a condom cause she still doesnt wanna risk getting pregnant and so on. THe problem is that once i start doing it with the condom , my d*** just doesnt wanna work anymore, its just doesnt feel the same with one on...Ive tried ultra thin ones and works for a bit and then the boner just goes away, What condoms would u guys recommend? Its kind of getting me frustrated cause i dont feel anything compared to wearing nothing..is it a matter of getting used to or what? Any tips will be greatly appreciated...

PS: I do not have alot of experience with sex, I've had it before but only a few times here and there nothing special to say the least.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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HeyPachuco!

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I had bareback with my Ex all the time, but had non-bareback with other girls after and before her.

I was still able to cvm. Try putting a little lube or vaseline on the tip of the condom (head). The pill is safe, people saying it isn't are talking cobbswollop. Is your girlfriend a health freak?

Try other positions you haven't done before, or repeat four-play longer than usual (near enough pre-ejaculating), just be spontaneous. Wrestle if you have to.
 

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i will pass on the most important addvice i have ever given on this forum

crown condoms.

find them. use them. love them.

you feel everything and a bullet could not break one. have to buy online they don't sell them in the us.

I believe if crown condoms were state issued, birth rate would drop 2-3%... if not more. there is no need to not use a condom.

a simple peice of plastice has saved me so much uncessary trouble.
 
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Now that I am out of my LTR and getting back into the field I am worried about this issue a bit myself. I went bareback with my ex for 3 straight years, and the few times we had to use a condom cause she screwed up her pill or whatever, I experienced the same thing OP described... I was all good for a while but I lost my hard on pretty quick... I believe the saying is "like taking a shower in a raincoat". I'm gonna check out these crown condoms, backbreaker.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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HeyPachuco! said:
Try putting a little lube or vaseline on the tip of the condom (head).
Yes, this is the trick
 
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Crown Condoms are difficult to get hold of here in my parts, so I order them from CondomCare. I've only ordered one box in the past and they are better than Durex, Trojan or any other condoms I have used.
 

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I've actually been lookin into and reading reviews about crown condoms, they seem to be the best lol, I just ordered some online tii LOL hopefully they'll help :)
 
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If they don't rub butter all over your **** and get her to use a femidom.
 

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You guys blow my mind..


Vaseline??

Lube inside the condom is great, but YOU NEVER EVER USE PETROLEUM OR OTHER OIL BASED PRODUCTS WITH CONDOMS.

I always wonder why everyone always says that since I thought everyone knew, but apparently not.

Latex is significantly degraded by oil based products. If you're going to use Vaseline, you might as well not use a condom.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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LOL.

If you are reading Gordon Brown using lubricant like Vaseline with Condoms is the reason we have the highest teenage pregancy rate in Europe.
 

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I know the feeling, and I'm still searching for a reasonable solution. In the end you just have to get used to it all over again...maybe you can try putting one on when you masturbate?
 

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quick question: why do you need to use condoms when she s on the pill? makes no sense to me...

I feel you as far as the whole condom thing goes, I hate the feeling, but love the security. I ve had your problem in the past, when my dong literally went limp the second I put a condom on. Then girl gets back to work, i m hard as hell, put another condom on and... same result as before!

Since then though I ve had sex with condoms plenty of times, without my losing interest at the last minute being too much of a problem. The trick that i ve used, and it worked wonders, is to not put the condom on until the very last minute. I m talking your already on top of the chick, 2 inches from her poonani, then you put it on and slip it in instantly. I noticed that if I go in still fairly hard i can handle the situation, but if i give my c.ock even a second to think about it before I get in, then i can run into surprises.

Happy to not have to use them in my current relationship though!

my favorite saying about sex with condoms: it s like eating a candy with the wrapper on.
 

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drak_ool said:
quick question: why do you need to use condoms when she s on the pill? makes no sense to me...
Herpes, the clap, AIDS. Oh and babies, you can't trust a girl to take the pill especially if you're not in a real relationship with her. Don't act like it can't happen. It happens everyday.

Try going seven years bareback. It's taking me a long time to get used to condoms again. But you gotta do it.
 

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Warrior, i respect your experience. However I still stick to my point that if you re dating a quality girl (which I was assuming the OP is), then you don't need to worry about STDs, you re only worried about kids. Personally I always make sure my gf takes her daily pill, or I ask her if she did, to be on the safe side.

I don t envy you, going back after 7 years must be tough...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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My girlfriends been on the pill and she was also my first and I think I've only fvcked her with a condom on once and we did it for like two minutes and then we just went bareback. I've never really fvcked a girl with a condom on before in my life... I have the worst feeling that I'm in for such a rude awakening when this relationship eventually ends.... :crackup:
 

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drak_ool said:
Warrior, i respect your experience. However I still stick to my point that if you re dating a quality girl (which I was assuming the OP is), then you don't need to worry about STDs, you re only worried about kids. Personally I always make sure my gf takes her daily pill, or I ask her if she did, to be on the safe side.

I don t envy you, going back after 7 years must be tough...
Ya. I don't believe in the quality girl myth. Classic hiphop puts you up on game! LOL. Treat 'em like a prostitute! Don't treat no girly well until you you're sure of the scoop!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6hsOSC6RVhk
 

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I was going to tell you to try the crown condoms but I see backbreaker beat me. they are better than going bearback sometimes they are that good.
 

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How bout using a C0ck ring while using the condoms and see if that helps you maintain an erection. Let us know if it works.
 

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The problem you are facing is that you are now used to the feeling of that bare skin hitting that delicious wetness when you take the plunge. There's nothing else like it and a condom will not allow that feeling.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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