“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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nolesfan

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Alright, this forum has already helped me in another situation (thread: taking it slow? I have backed off that girl and focused on others), so I thought I would run another thing past everyone for some advice.

Basically, I have seen this one girl in the gym a couple of times, and she is single (I asked the kid that worked at the desk about her, he even said that it seemed like she was looking for a guy, but she said that every guy is an *******) Well after that day, I hadn’t seen her again and this was like 2 months ago.

I then see her show up on my facebook, so I added her as a friend, with the thought, I may never see this girl again in my gym since I hadn’t seen her for two months, so lets give this a try. She accepted and I messaged her the following day, saying, “hey, I feel like you go to my gym”, she responds, we make a lil small talk.

Low and behold, She then goes to the gym yesterday, with her friend and her mom. When I walk in, she kind of smiles at me, and I just give her a wave and go start working out, as she was in the middle of running on the treadmill and I had sh*t to do. She gets done and next thing I know she is gone. I didn’t get a chance to talk to her.

So I message her on facebook later that night saying about seeing her and not getting to talk to her, in a playful manner, and she is going back and forth with me and laughing. I then say the following in an attempt to get her number and stop this back and forth stuff “im just going to lay it out for you, if you give me your number, im going to use it and ask you out on a date”

She read it, but she did not respond. I havent said anything else to her, given I am guessing she isnt interested.

Was that too much too soon, I mean I just asked her for the number and a date so to speak, but if she is looking for a guy, I didn’t see the problem. Regardless, anything more I should try? I love this chicks body, and I will probably see her in the gym again since she is planning on starting a “routine.” Maybe she just isn’t interested or talking to someone else (non-response) , but she kept going back and forth with me in a playful flirty manner, prior to me asking for her number. I was planning on just playing it cool if I see her at the gym, because it is what it is, and I dont want it to effect me because it didnt really

This seems to happen to me a lot I have noticed, where the girls that I want, I rarely seal the deal, and the girls that I could care less about it, are all over my stick. I have to be doing something wrong but I cant put my finger on it, and I want to change it because I want to start getting with girls that I think are sexy, not settling for those I don’t.

I get it that not every girl is interested and to just brush it off, but I just want to make sure I am not doing something to unattract them if I could have had a chance, rejection is no big deal to me
 
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It shows low interest level. She was acting flirty because she was enjoying the attention you were giving her (which she probably gets from plenty of guys), but as soon as you were direct she bailed. Girls like to string guys along for the attention and gifts they can get; look up "beta orbiters."

This is why it's always better to be direct, IMO. Avoid wasting any time.
 

Çharismo

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Let me lay something out for you.

This is coming from a good looking guy who has a "great" facebook profile. I crafted it as uniquely as possible...pictures of me modeling, baby pictures, traveling etc. I've done all types of experiments on Facebook and the thing I'm going to tell you and anyone else reading this is to never use facebook to ask a woman out. You can add random people as friends and if they accept that's cool but leave it at that. You can have short conversations with women and that's as far as you will get. Don't ask women out over facebook.

Do it in person.

Whether she has low interest level or not you will only find out if you have the balls to ask her out face to face in person.

--Gentle persistence is the key --

Again you already made a move online and she stopped responding, that's a sign right there that you won't get too far online. Facebook, twitter, instagram are all bullsh!t. It's all a ploy to get attention that most people lack so don't get sucked into it. This is what most people do on facebook....they update there "status's" everyday, post pictures of food, there kids, getting married, random bull**** and videos. Again never ask anyone out over facebook ever again. I have a facebook account as well just to have an online presence but what I'm doing now is trying to max out my friends list and all I use it for is to watch videos that people post up and stay up to date with what's hip or what are the new trends that everyone is following for example :- ALS Ice bucket challenge. It's a good way to stay in tune with what's going on in the world but other than that it serves no purpose.

Next time you see her just ask her out if she declines you will have your answer.:rockon:
 

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^^^. Spot on. Face to face is way better than email.
 

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Çharismo said:
Don't ask women out over facebook.

Do it in person.

Whether she has low interest level or not you will only find out if you have the balls to ask her out face to face in person.

--Gentle persistence is the key --

so, basically you are saying that there is no way to get with any girl that you may not know, but she is on facebook and you think shes sexy, unless you happen to run into her in person.

And can you add on to what you mean by gentle persistence is the key
 

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Yes. Don't give her any more attention. It seems she just likes you as a friend (beta orbiter). You can do better.
 

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I deleted facebook and all other social media. Social media is a heaven for woman with all the AFC's out there giving woman all the attention they want, and does absolutely nothing for men except make them look desperate. Plus it will make you look more mysterious and busy, because you don't have time in your life for that petty crap.

I never posted anything on FB and got sick of seeing all the useless news feed crap, just a waste of time. If you decide to keep FB., DO NOT TALK to girls on FB unless they initiate contact first.

So far for me, face to face conversations with strangers blows the doors off of FB, and I don't miss facebook one bit.
 
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