Just wanted to share this and get some feedback. I know I made a lot of AFC mistakes and it didn't result in anything, but I feel good that I had the balls to do it and had no nervousness at all.
So here I am, it's about 10:30 at night and I'm looking for a friend of mine on the top floor of the university library because I was his ride back home (we share an apartment). So I'm looking around, and I see a girl with an ipod and ipod earphones and managed to actually get and maintain eye contact for 3-4seconds (seemed longer than that). I smile and say "hi"
her: hi how are you?
me: I'm good. You?
her: good
me: I'm jaymo, and your name is......
her: I'm (forgot her name). How are you?
me: What? You already asked me that!!
her: I did? (confused look) I'm sorry
me: You're losing your memory from being over the hill girl, and you don't even look that old (not the exact words, but it was something along those lines)
From here, I ask her if she's seen my friend and describe him, and she says she didn't. I then ask her what she's listening to on her ipod and she names same band I never heard of. Since the conversation is getting awkword I decide to make a move:
me: Well you seem like a nice girl
her: I am (missed opportinity for a neg I guess but oh well)
me: would you like to go out for some coffee or whatever sometime?
her: oh...well...I have a boyfriend
me: oh (awkword pause)...well...... (abruptly) DUMP HIM!!! (I say it in a way as if it's like "well duh!! It's the most obvious thing in the world"....at least that's how I interpretted it)
This actually got a genuine laugh out of her, I guess because this might have been the first time someone actually had the gall to say that and was totally unexpected (a key component of humor BTW). I think I could have went with this and say that people laugh because something is true and imply that she might have thought this through. However, I just said "no I guess that won't do would it" (she agrees) "well it's nice meeting you. see ya" and eject and look for my friend.
Maybe i should tape these things with a sound recorder, put em on youtube with no video (can't really afford concealed cameras and it's a bit troublesome to try to get someone with a video camera to follow you around and tape you), and let you guys listen so you can comment on voice tone which is part of body language. I was told that sometimes I project myself too loudly or speak too fast sometimes, so that's something I'm trying to work on.
So here I am, it's about 10:30 at night and I'm looking for a friend of mine on the top floor of the university library because I was his ride back home (we share an apartment). So I'm looking around, and I see a girl with an ipod and ipod earphones and managed to actually get and maintain eye contact for 3-4seconds (seemed longer than that). I smile and say "hi"
her: hi how are you?
me: I'm good. You?
her: good
me: I'm jaymo, and your name is......
her: I'm (forgot her name). How are you?
me: What? You already asked me that!!
her: I did? (confused look) I'm sorry
me: You're losing your memory from being over the hill girl, and you don't even look that old (not the exact words, but it was something along those lines)
From here, I ask her if she's seen my friend and describe him, and she says she didn't. I then ask her what she's listening to on her ipod and she names same band I never heard of. Since the conversation is getting awkword I decide to make a move:
me: Well you seem like a nice girl
her: I am (missed opportinity for a neg I guess but oh well)
me: would you like to go out for some coffee or whatever sometime?
her: oh...well...I have a boyfriend
me: oh (awkword pause)...well...... (abruptly) DUMP HIM!!! (I say it in a way as if it's like "well duh!! It's the most obvious thing in the world"....at least that's how I interpretted it)
This actually got a genuine laugh out of her, I guess because this might have been the first time someone actually had the gall to say that and was totally unexpected (a key component of humor BTW). I think I could have went with this and say that people laugh because something is true and imply that she might have thought this through. However, I just said "no I guess that won't do would it" (she agrees) "well it's nice meeting you. see ya" and eject and look for my friend.
Maybe i should tape these things with a sound recorder, put em on youtube with no video (can't really afford concealed cameras and it's a bit troublesome to try to get someone with a video camera to follow you around and tape you), and let you guys listen so you can comment on voice tone which is part of body language. I was told that sometimes I project myself too loudly or speak too fast sometimes, so that's something I'm trying to work on.
