On the proper use of Kegels...the orgasm bet.

[hellfire45]

Ok. I have this girlfriend who is sexually experienced and when I started going out with her I was a virgin. She told me that shes never had an orgasm so I said, being the guy that wanted to be manly and such I made a bet that in a month, I'd give her an orgasm or I'd buy her dinner at a restuarant that has like 50 dollars entrees.
Well I'm not a virgin anymore. We've had sex like 5 times in this last 8 days. The first time I lasted like 30 mins...I freaked out. She told me id be toast in like 1 minute tops. She didn't believe I was a virgin. She didn't orgasm, but went "numb". I dont know what that means. I guess the sensitivity wears off.

The next four times...I've only lasted like a max of 5 mins. She hasnt orgasmed and I might lose my bet. I've got 20 days left.

I was trying to control the orgasm tonight and I tried hard, but I couldnt hold it in and I ejaculated and that was it. I know kegels is supposed to allow you to hold back the orgasms or something but really I dont know how this is supposed to work. When it comes, it just comes.

Do you use the kegels the entire time your having sex so that the urge just never surfaces? Do you start it as you feel the urge coming on and supress it? Do you just ejaculate and then use kegels to stay hard? I dont really understand how its supposed to work but im trying to learn to become good in bed.

Anyway, advice and info would be appreciated.
Thanks.

 

[cyp6]

your supose to stop when your about arive dude.. stop and wait it out. think about your parents or somting... and then get back into it. haha obviously dont think about your parents. but some thing non sexual

 

[hellfire45]

Yes, but I mean if I just pull out and stop for a minute or too until I cool down, correct me if I'm wrong. I'm trying to make the girl orgasm so...isnt she going to cool down too?

Also, I mean I'll cool down, sure. However, it will take much shorter a time to reach the orgasm apoint again. How does kegels help with this? I still dont understand the usage.

 

[( . )( . )]

Your ego is writing cheques your body can't cash----Top Gun

But seriously DO NOT talk about orgasms with your chick, by the smallest chance your 5 time super hero skill level even did get the b!tch off youve just cancelled it 10 fold by telling her subconscious your going to do it.

That sounded a bit c@ckblockish I know but really drop the bet thing. For all you know the 10 other insecure douche bags before you who all wanted to be sex gods also promised the same thing to the poor b!tch.

 

[cyp6]

The penuis is not only tool you have man. Fingers toung, and if she can't have an orgasm throgh her vegina try anal, but be care full that sh!t is wierd the first time.

Also use tons of foreplay.

 

[MAVER1CK]

eat her out first. How old is she?

ask her if she can get herself off.

 

[hellfire45]

I'm 20 and she is 17. She doesnt really like to be eaten out. I've tried it and she tells me that shes fooled around with women before and she wouldnt even make women do it cause she thinks its disgusting.
I was fingering her instead and I think I did ok at it, but like I said I'm a bit new to some of this stuff so I'm still learning though im not embarrassing myself.

 

[Desdinova]

Dude, the secret to getting a woman to orgasm isn't to control your orgasm, it's to control hers. If she doesn't like being eaten out, use your fingers. And don't just sit there letting your fingers do all the work, your other hand and your mouth should be working on other parts of her body (nipples, neck, hair, ears).

Also, if you're the ex-virgin you say you are, get yourself a diagram of female genitalia and learn it. If you're just aiming for orgasm, devote your attention to the ****orus. Focus on the pleasure of sex instead of the act of sex.

Moved to AE.

 

[Jariel]

Dude, the secret to getting a woman to orgasm isn't to control your orgasm, it's to control hers. If she doesn't like being eaten out, use your fingers. And don't just sit there letting your fingers do all the work, your other hand and your mouth should be working on other parts of her body (nipples, neck, hair, ears).

Also, if you're the ex-virgin you say you are, get yourself a diagram of female genitalia and learn it. If you're just aiming for orgasm, devote your attention to the ****orus. Focus on the pleasure of sex instead of the act of sex.

Moved to AE.

Exactly! Another tip...touch and kiss her skin so lightly you're just grazing her bodyhairs. Work closer and closer to her nipples and her ****, then move away, repeat and basically tease her until she goes crazy, then tease her some more!

A woman needs to be mentally stimulated in order to reach an orgasm, and this is where the teasing comes in.

 

[Hurrican]

great pick up line:

I will give you an orgasm in 30 days or I will take you out to an expensive restruant.

 

[PeterNorthisawesome]

Do the c lit and g-spot the SAMETIME if that doesn't work she's dysfunctional... you can always try the t*ts but it's hard. If cl it, g-spot and t*ts don't work your chances of giving her an orgasm is the same as trying to give one to a blow up doll.

 

[Phoenix_of_the_ashes]

What makes you think that you can make her *** if all the guys before her havent been able to?