"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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On the fly date?

Rockadeimis

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K, I'm supposed to be "studying" with this chick from my class today at college. Just us. We are on campus, so I was wondering what's the best tactic:

-kino at library
-grab lunch "date"
-study, get rapport, then set date at later time

Any ideas?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Aaron B

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In that case I would immediately plan a real date. Then have the study date.

Get physical with her in the study date if you want. Make plans with her for the "real date."

Take it from there. You should know a lot more about if you want to date her or not after the study date.

I would definitely act like you are actually wanting to study btw. When she starts acting silly or talking about whatever you can bust on her for not being a serious student, etc.

Or not even have a real date and just see what happens through casual encounters. Its all up to you and what you want.
 

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K, update:

Got tons of kino, mostly from me to her. Shoulder touching, waist grabbing, eye contact, etc...She reciprocated a bit, touching kightly, smiling blah blah blah.

Set plans to go get cofee Wednesday at the campus coffee shop.

My problem is, I don't really know the next step.

This girl is spoiled, used to getting things her way, and we have a small circle of friends that are all in the same class (especially this one girl who still has a crush on me). I know she doesn't want to be looked at as a slut.

So how can I keep the heat up, while disarming her worries about other people's opinions?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Rockadeimis

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Turns out throughout all the winking from her to me, waist grabbing, hair touching, etc...

the chick is married...

I don't think her hubby would be too happy if he knew some guy had his hands all over his woman.

I know I know, don't "try" to ruin a marriage...but damn, it's so tempting. Of course sometimes you never know if you have a shot or not. She still flirts IMO...hmm.
 

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I wouldn't mess with a married woman. But its your choice. I agree with others that you should forget the study date thing and go for a real date plain and simple.
 
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