"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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on the facebook issue

bookman

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thread after thread here we keep reading"delete facebook, it kills mystery " etc...
you should not delete facebook, facebook is the future in this world, everyone is on it, it is good to connect and it will allow you to know more about the potential girl you are interested in. however to avoid killing mystery you should TWEAK YOUR PRIVACY SETTINGS, no need to delete, just be smart about what you want them to see, and how much you want them to see. in this article I will write the kind of things you should be careful about.

1) tag pictures, I suggest you make tag pictures only visible to you and not your friends. first of all, if someone tags an embarrassing picture of you, it will not immediatly pop in your girl's face the second she turns on her computer, and if you are tagged in a nice picture, you can always save it on your computer and upload it to your albums. second reason is, you don't want people to know what you have been up to all the time, so you go partying at night or go to a lunch, 5 min after you return, your whole day is publicly visible on facebook. that definetly kills mystery.

2) make groups invisible to everyone(in the application settings, set the visibility to "only me" ) groups contain your favorite actors, political views, job, interests, hobbies etc... for many people it sums up their life, do everyone a favor, keep them hidden, next time you meet people you will be able to slip a couple of words without gettign a "yeah I know I saw it on your facebook" and keep your fan pages to a minimum, fan pages cannot be hidden(not yet at least)

3) hobbies, favorite quotes, favorite people etc... don't mention them

4)back to photos, make one folder visible to people and keep the rest hidden, in that folder, put a few pics of you in social places, don't display your whole life for everyone to see.

5)don't make a new status message every few hours, change your status message once a week, appear to be too busy to browse facebook even if you actually have the page open in front of you 24/7 :p

6) the relationship status thingy, I don't like to set it to anything, many people set it to single, and then once they are in a relationship they mention it, and when they break up they change it again, I am not sure if this affects any new girl you are going to meet, but personally I don't want girls I know from far back and people to keep track of where I am emotionally

a word on messenger, appear invisible often except for one hour a day max, let people miss you, make yourself scarce, don't be online a lot, it shows you have nothing to do

anyway that is my opinion, it was too long to put it in a post, so I thought it deserves a thread, no need to delete profiles and be cut out from people, just be careful what you share and keep your information under control, and you can still be mysterious
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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f283000

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Here is my rebuke
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=173877

I advocate deleting facebook except if kept for just close friends and family. Notice I put close friends in bold and what i'm talking about is your buddies. If you are adding b|tches on facebook it is detrimental to your game. That's what cell phones are for (talking to hors)
 

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Being tagged in a few pictures or less isn't going to make or break with any girls...
I had a car accident 2 weeks ago, a friend of mine took a pic of my car and tagged me in it, I don't want girls on my facebook to see this :p they wouldn't trust me, that is an example you know... next time I ask a girl that has seen this out she's gonna say "I'm never riding with you"

some people go too far with groups, I have seen some with 300 groups, they have nothing else to do...
but the point I was getting across is that deleting is not necessary when you are in control of what info is being shared. and you can always set exceptions, you can make soem info public for everyone except a certain person...
 

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i personally think that is doing too much for an internet website.. making yourself seem more "mysterious" online
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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stop focusing on the negative and turn it into a positive its almost a game in itself, you can create the most outrageous and fun status updates ever. All to often you guys are bashing things saying there removing mystery. But what is mystery? Mystery is to baffle or confuse or it somebody who is actual identity is really unknown? You can use all these things to your advantage just you have to learn to play the game correctly and utilize the tools you've been given. Either create a mystery surrounding yourself by confusing or baffling or disappear. So in response to all this crap about the internet and facebook etc. Theres actually two answers or routes you can take.

Route A: Use modern technology to your advantage and create a persona or a mystery about yourself.

or

Route B: Disappear. Just Disappear completely.
 

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Go Go Gabriel said:
Do what works for you though, that's all that matters.
I like this quote. People in the community, and in life ram their beliefs down your throat. Even if 99.9% of the world are thinking one way, do what you want, think how you want to.

I'm putting a lot of effort into facebook recently, and I don't mean jerking off to jenny johns Malia 09 photo's. I agree with what someone said, "facebook is the future".

If you find someone you like and get on with, it's easy to just pick them up and hang out :)
 

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If you think about it, if people notice that you're online all the time, wouldn't that mean that they are also online all the time too?

That's like someone telling on you because you didn't keep your eyes closed during prayer.

Just saying.
 

bookman

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not really, because whenever you post, the date is attached to your post :p
and if you are talking about messenger, what if they log in at separate random periods of the day and they notice you are always there...
 
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