On the Dance Floor

[Amon Rob]

Last night I went out to the club with my friends, and ended up standing in a damn corner. In all honesty, I'm a good dancer, it's something I love to do. I do hip-hop styles, breaking, popping, things like that. I've danced on teams, on the street, on stage, bymyself in front of an entire school, no problem. I get out there, it's like I was frozen.

Even though I love to dance, I've never been comfortable with walking up and dancing on/with a girl. What really sucks is that, at the end of the night, my friends who had almost no dancing ability were hooking up. Some of these girls came out of NOWHERE. It was like watching pins fly to a magnet. Anyway, for those who have experience with this kind of thing, how do I improve my game on the floor? I know there are some guys that avoid the clubs altogether, but where I live, that's where the girls are.

 

[WC2]

Take a step back, take a look at what you just said. You are admitting to all your failures on this particular night. The only one who can fix things is you. The only reason you are coming to this board is for reassuarnce, or to find out what you're doing wrong.

But come on Rob. Deep down you know what you're doing wrong. Be a man and face your fears.

 

[sorin]

Hi Rob.

The game on the dance floor. Well, well, well...
First... I think it's easier to approach them away from the dance floor especially because they can hear you better... and you can engage their attention easier.

If you really want to do it on the dance floor don't do it as a dance...
Go up to her and tell her:

"I like you... I want to get to know you" ... but really feel it... be honest... and confident... and she'll introduce herself or whatever and yóu'll lead the conversation etc...

It might happen that she's too high energy and everything and she wants to dance... you can either wait until she has a break from all the dance... or goes to the toilet... or do the approach strong... so she feels a little pleasant shock and then lead her to get some drinks... and only after you've had some rapport and maybe a kiss... dance with her do whatever... otherwise it's easy to lose her on the dance floor... emotions change... etc... with the music....

Experiment and see what works better for you.
Use the Direct Attitude and things will work out a hundred times easier.

Anyway, for those who have experience with this kind of thing, how do I improve my game on the floor?

 

[hamelech]

I'm a pretty good dancer...not professional but usually when I'm in a club I'm at least in the top five or so...This is what I do if I'm there and I'm not getting any eye contact or vibes from the women in the club...If you're a really good dancer like you say just get out on the floor and dance alone...pretend as though you're in your own world and just there for the enjoyment of dancing...Usually women will try to bait you by dancing semi-close to you in a way that leaves you wondering "Is she trying to dance with me?" Don't fall for this...They usually want you to press up on them so they can reject you, boost their egos and in a sense say "you're not all that." Instead act more like they're in your way...Don't make eye contact or anything until they make it More than obvious that they're pushing up on you...I can almost guarantee if you're a really good dancer like you say this will work...I've done this alot of times and almost always some girl comes out of the blue and starts grinding on me...Once I had a girl come up, grab me and lick my face and another time four girls ran up on me and put me in a four way sandwich grind...Women love men that can dance...The key is to just look like you're having fun and I guess in a sense they get jealous of that...and if they can't beat you they join you.

 

[sorin]

I dance only to create my good mood. I don't dance to attract her.
You can use dancing for rapport, doing something different to whatever everyone is doing... but I still think getting to know her... her feeling close to you will get you more...

Sure you can have ONS in a club... but if you don't have sex with her that evening... and don't have your logistics set up and everything and get past LMR's like crazy... get her drunk whatever...

I can assure you you're going to have problems on day2 if there is such thing... because she realises she doesn't know you.

So talk to them... and get to know them first.

 

[diablo]

There are already numerous guides out there that go into great detail regarding club behavior. Try searching in the future, thanks.

Here are a few of my favorites:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=67183
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=9875
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=18321

The rest you can find by doing your own search.