Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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That_Guy49

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I think one thing that has hampered my game and overall possibilites at romance with women is the fact that my parents were very against me having girlfriends. They were very religious and I felt oppressed to a point. Now, I've made out and even f*cked a few women out there thanks to the techniques used here but one thing that always bugs afterwards is that after I'm done making out or having sex with the girl, I have an urgency to get away and stay from that girl. I don't know why. I feel ashamed for being with the girl. I've done this 3 times. I thought I really liked the girl and she really liked me but after all was said and done I felt very awkward and guilty. I don't know why, but I just can't stand the thought of being with her again because everything changes between me and her and it really really scares me...what the hell is wrong with me?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Your parents. And social engineering.

You see, from an early age, they've basically fed you these values of not doing anything (i'm not religious, so i'll be awkwardly vague here) with a girl until married, so when you DO do something with them, the back of your mind is screaming "SINNER!"

You have 2 options:

- Go to church and be a good...whatever.
- Fock until you're no longer religious.

Syn.
 

DonJuanMonk

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Like what Chairman Mao said when he helped China become a Communist state "Religion is poison."

I wholeheartedly agree that religion will distort while providing a safe haven in which you are oppressed yet have untameable desires.

You should get a new religion/belief if you want, I would suggest asian religions as being superior than the white people ones.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I used to feel the same way. I myself was very religious and anti-sex till I got my first girlfriend (at 16 :() and did everything except fvck her over the course of eight months. That changed everything. I sometimes get the same feeling right after I get with a girl I don't respect... I sort of roll over and search frantically for the nuclear detonation button to destroy her.
 

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man, f*ck church..hell, I listen to nothing but heretic music. Darkthrone and Cradle of Filth are my favorite bands and I own a shirt that says "Jesus is a c*nt"...none of that religion sh*t gon change the way I feel about this issue..I wanna change my thought but I don't know how and I just don't wanna hurt another girl with my withdrawals.
 
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