"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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RangerMIke

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Was at a party last night, was supposed to meet up with a women I met a couple of weeks ago, she stood me up, sending me a text message I didn't check til this morning that was some rambling nonsense that really doesn't matter. But hey, while there I saw another women and tried to hit her up... then she shot me down... and it was epic. Tried another.... married.... then another.... with her BF (pointing him out)

Okay... it was a bad night, I really don't have too many of these but it does happen the best way to deal with rejection is to recognize these three principles.

(1) You can not get any woman you want. It doesn't matter how attractive you are to most women, some women will not feel it for you.

(2) Chasing one girl and thinking she is "the one" is the single most unattractive thing a man can do. You reak of desperation and you stink to high heaven.

(3) Finally... if you are not getting rejected, then you are not trying. If you are not trying, then you are likely NOT getting any women. Don't worry about your ego.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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No.Danny

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So relevant to me right now, great post and words that are known but need to be reinstated.
 

guru1000

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The man who fails one hundred times and keeps trying is worth more than the man who tries once and succeeds.
 

old_skoolr

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I was in the same boat, but I have to say I'm back out of it and enjoying the challenge. you cant win them all, just keep trying. When you stop trying is when you'll truly fail.
 

old married dude

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Just dust yourself off and try again.

Even Babe Ruth went 0 for 4 with 4 strikeouts sometimes.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Obsidian

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Actually, I kinda think that chasing after one woman and thinking she is the one can incidentally help you with other women.
 
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