"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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On happiness

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To begin a little story from India

"There once was a man who had only two things in life that he valued a little pony and his son. They together were his whole reality, his world. One day the little pony disappeared and it was nowhere to be found. The man was devastated, he had lost half his fortune, half his life. He was in the depths of despair when the pony returned bringing with her the most amazing white stallion, nothing like the man had ever seen before. So suddenly from the depths of despair he was in the heights of ecstasy. The next day when his son was ridding the pony he fell down and broke his leg. Again the man was devastated. He was wallowing in his misery as the army passed by, the country was at war and they were there to recruit. They took all the fit people in the little village with them except the man’s son who was allowed to stay home because of his broken leg. So again from the depths of the despair he was in the heights of ecstasy."

This is the story with no ending. As long as we place our happiness in things outside of ourselves (or in the hands of others if you will) our reality will always be unstable.

A person who places his happiness outside of himself will always seek the approval of others. Instead of seeing himself for what he is he tries to understand himself trough the eyes of someone else.

A person who holds his happiness in his own hands always feels wonderful regardless of the things around him, regardless of his circumstances, regardless of his environment. He has no need to prove this or anything else to anyone because if he had that need again he would be evaluating himself trough the eyes of others.



Bliss is to be happy without any reason
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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