"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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On girls who wear glasses

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Girls seek to maximize their physical attractiveness.

If a girl is wearing glasses (that is, has permanently incorporated them into her style), it is because she looks better with glasses than without glasses. That is the overwhelming reason; contacts are not expensive.

But why would she look better with glasses? Well, glasses partially block one's view of the face. It follows that if you look better with glasses, your face has something that needs obscuring, i.e. your face is less-than-attractive. Pay close attention to the style of glasses: the larger, thicker and darker the frames, the more they obscure: the less attractive the face.

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Well, that's been my experience anyways. I dunno if anyone can relate. Wouldn't want anyone to get a nasty shock... make her take off her glasses and get a good look before you make any decisions.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Zerro

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I agree with the OP somewhat, I know a lot of girls whom I've seen with and without their glasses and often it seems like something is missing when they're not wearing them.

Interesting though that more and more chicks are wearing them these days, a big change from my high school days when every chick had to have contacts and wouldn't be seen dead with glasses. One of the few chicks I know whom I'd rate as a 10 wears glasses most of the time, even in her modeling shots.
 

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Zerro said:
I agree with the OP somewhat, I know a lot of girls whom I've seen with and without their glasses and often it seems like something is missing when they're not wearing them.

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Hmmm I think that could be more related to your visual memory of someone though because everyone I know who has known me for most of my life without glasses say they prefer me without them and everyone who met me after I started wearing glasses generally say they prefer me with them, like they've become part of my image really. Personally I'd want contacts so I could mix it up from day to day but I can't get them in my eye :eek:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My gf's sister is a very attractive woman (with a 5hitty personality). She recently started wearing glasses and I must tell you that they're knocked down her appearance by 2-3 points. She chose these giant yellow and black zebra-striped frames that make her look like a goof.

Glasses on a person can really make them look good if they choose a frame that works. Choose the wrong frame and they'll work against you.
 

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Now that I recall all the attractive girls I know are into contacts as if they want to show their faces as much as possible, women treat glasses as men treat long beards?
 

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CuriousGirl said:
Hmmm I think that could be more related to your visual memory of someone though because everyone I know who has known me for most of my life without glasses say they prefer me without them and everyone who met me after I started wearing glasses generally say they prefer me with them, like they've become part of my image really. Personally I'd want contacts so I could mix it up from day to day but I can't get them in my eye :eek:
Except there have been plenty cases where the girl doesn't normally wear them, hadn't been wearing them when I first saw her, but I still thought they were an improvement when she did.

All in all it comes down to preference and some people's faces are just complemented better by a nice set a frames than others.

On a side-note about your visual memory theory, I have had occasions where I didn't recognize someone because they weren't in their usual garb. One was a Tilted Kilt girl whom I ran into outside of her work in her normal street clothes and I had trouble remembering who she was when she walked up and started talking to me.
 
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