"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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On foreign girls / thick accents

Effington

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I am attending night classes at a university that has an extremely diverse student population, with around 60% of the students coming from China or India. A large portion of them moved to The States recently, and have thick accents and know only a limited amount of English.

Anyway, there are a lot of good looking girls so I make conversation. However, I find it extremely difficult to talk to them. Some don't understand subtle meanings or slang. For example, the girl I was talking to today was eating a banana, and I made an innuendo, and it went completely over her head. One of my friends in class said she's on the hunt, and she seemed interest, considering she pretty much giggled at anything I said. However, there was a bit of a communication barrier. Even the most basic conversations became a chore.

Would you make the attempt?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Now it's pretty apparent how much real conversation can play the part in communicating. Americans rely way too much on text messaging and cliches in their interactions. Well, it's up to you whether or not you'd feel it's worth putting all of the fluff on the backburner and try regular, plain old English.
 

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Effington said:
I am attending night classes at a university that has an extremely diverse student population, with around 60% of the students coming from China or India. A large portion of them moved to The States recently, and have thick accents and know only a limited amount of English.

Anyway, there are a lot of good looking girls so I make conversation. However, I find it extremely difficult to talk to them. Some don't understand subtle meanings or slang. For example, the girl I was talking to today was eating a banana, and I made an innuendo, and it went completely over her head. One of my friends in class said she's on the hunt, and she seemed interest, considering she pretty much giggled at anything I said. However, there was a bit of a communication barrier. Even the most basic conversations became a chore.

Would you make the attempt?
If you intend to continue, make sure to communicate in direct terms. Sarcasm and the like aren't going to necessarily be clear to her (for the time being).
 

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wouldnt this be great to see how much body language affects your rel with a person and not only how much you say, to like rely on things other than words to communicate
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Open with "ni hao ma". Chinese girls love it when white guys say this lol. Anyway learn some foreign term from them and use them occasionally in the conversation.
 
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What could be better? A woman who doesn't speak English. It's my dream girl. Better yet, just give me a mute.
 

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She is from a different country with a different culture. I can assure you, British humour often goes over the top of yankee heads mate. It has little to do with language. Just realise that subtle communication is more difficult when people are from another culture or country.
 
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It's not that hard. If you have the confidence to approach, get the #, and get her to go out with you. I guarantee you can hit it.

I'm working on one right now who has terrible English and it's so easy because there is no game at all. Just talk to them, make them laugh, learn a few words of their language and you're in.
 

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She is from a different country with a different culture. I can assure you, British humour often goes over the top of yankee heads mate. It has little to do with language. Just realise that subtle communication is more difficult when people are from another culture or country.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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AgonyUncle said:
She is from a different country with a different culture. I can assure you, British humour often goes over the top of yankee heads mate. It has little to do with language. Just realise that subtle communication is more difficult when people are from another culture or country.

Well he did say many of the girls are Indian. I have always heard they like to stick with their own culture. You should go for hispanic women, they are the bomb especially when they don't speak good english.
 
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