On flaking: a chick's take

[hansol]

Hey guys,

Thought I would post this gem of an email I got the other day. Backstory is the girl is gorgeous and successful, we made plans, she flaked and expected me to be cool with it. I of course had other ideas, and got hit up with this gem of an email: (I should also preface it by mentioning I am a couple years younger than she is, and that she made the comment she should probably go for an older guy rather than me. It will make more sense after further reading.)

"Whats good with older men? they know how to handle even the most emotional, dramatic broad i guess.

How did i get to go out with [ex-bf]?

Of course it's not [me] without the flaking and all these emoness and nerdary...

For the longest time i have flaked so many times and refused to go out with [ex-bf] (as i was ok with our bbm chats.). One time he arranged a Baton Rouge date and i flaked on him...He showed me the reservation cancellation email he had to make (and a pic of the newly potted plant he was supposed to give me.)


i flaked on him couple of times.. (i guess he holds the most record).. But he didnt delete my PIN.. (i think i deleted him couple of times whenever he would scold me for letting my ex visit me), he would just stop BBM'g me. And after awhile [ex-bf] and I would start messaging each other again... So my attraction for him apparently grew.. he is such a good man..

One lonely evening, during one of our bbm flirxts i just decided to hang out with him as i have come to get to know that he's a good man after all. (i can be spontaneous during weird moments). Please note that this was no chic Rouge date.. He didnt have to impress me.

I can be indecisive ( and yes, emotionally unstable) so it's nice to have a guy who is more mature than me and can handle the crazy so well.
I think it was marilyn monroe who once said, "if u csnt handle me at my worst, then you dont deserve me at my best."

Also note that I have never mentioned her ex or anything like that previously; this was all out of left field for me.

Anyway, I had a good laugh, but what blew me away is how women can rationalize extremely bad behavior and somehow convince themselves that they've genuinely done nothing wrong. Bizarre, but that's how it goes I guess. For what it's worth. figured it'd be good for a laugh on a Friday night.

 

[Jitterbug]

I think it was marilyn monroe who once said, "if u csnt handle me at my worst, then you dont deserve me at my best."

Every chick who's quoted and liked this on my Facebook feed has mental issues, and of course Marilyn Monroe was also certifiably crazy (look up her bio).

"Don't stick your d1ck in crazy" is in the Bro Bible somewhere, I'm sure.

Run, my friend!

 

[flashpoint]

stupid biatch thinks her looks make her something special and that her pussay is made of gold. well, that is not the case. too bad wimps like her ex and the like give her the idea that it is (such a good guy ^^ . ya sure. makes me wonder whether she pulled the "you are too good for me" line from the other thread on him).

i mean it is an almost common notion that women are emotionally unstable and therefore need someone who can contain all their shyte. But i REFUSE. just because she is a spoiled brat that didnt grow up and learn some decency doesnt mean we as men need to put up with this crap just so we can get into her pants.

that is what i would send her back: "grow up". and then forget about her for a while.

 

[Colossus]

Yeah, run.

What a chump the other guy is. Dont be him.

I hate that quote. It's just a cop-out for being a b!tch whenever they feel like it. Thinking your sh!t doesn't stink is really pervasively female behavior.

I've said it before and I'm going to be repeating it often: The best thing you can do start turning the feminist tide is to start choosing ONLY positive feminine, generally submissive, well-behaved women. You are doing your part to select out the cvnts.

Tolerating an emotionally labile b!tch does not make her good behavior more valuable, that's faulty logic. If your dog sh!t all over your bed then wanted to cuddle would you think it's all worth it? No, you have a poorly behaved dog. Be a leader. Pick a good dog. Teach the dog to respect you and it will love you.

Dog whisperer FTW.

 

[origin138]

Translation: I need an enabler in order to function in a relationship.

Next!

 

[mrRuckus]

"I think it was marilyn monroe who once said, "if u csnt handle me at my worst, then you dont deserve me at my best."

It's not can't. It's won't. It's that I don't want to handle your worst and your best isn't good enough to make up for it anyway.

Who even displays their worst ever anyway? If your worst comes out in something other than a life or death situation or similar, then you are fvcked up.

 

[hansol]

...I don't want to handle your worst and your best isn't good enough to make up for it anyway.

:crackup: very tempted to send that to her. I've been on radio silence since she pulled this stunt (more out of disgust as opposed to a "no-contact" type situation) but I almost want to break it to use that zinger.

 

[disgustipated]

"I think it was marilyn monroe who once said, "if u csnt handle me at my worst, then you dont deserve me at my best."

It's not can't. It's won't. It's that I don't want to handle your worst and your best isn't good enough to make up for it anyway.

Who even displays their worst ever anyway? If your worst comes out in something other than a life or death situation or similar, then you are fvcFuked up.

****ing genius response. As much as we guys have to endure this crap, I don't see why we can't use social media to correct some of this. I mean, I.have maybe 2 women on my fb that post crap like that but I never miss an opportunity to bust balls about it.

An summarized version of what u posted is what I put on my wall just now. Not overly aggresive, and more aimed at my nephews and any male friends who wanna take.it in. Don't see why guys can't popularize memes that fit our imperative via social media since so.much crap is.put up by females and left unchallenged. Not saying you gotta start a war with some ghetto queen living down the interstate from you but you can challenge without disrepecting just for the principle.

Also, I think I read it here or on Rollos site but the best response to.where are all the good men is, in your 20s where you left them.

 

[GotED?]

This happened to me just over the weekend - was going on a 2nd date with a HB8-9 who looked almost just like Cameron Diaz with a body to go with it as well. I knew before going on the 1st date, I was going to head in for some game and mind fooking - dating beautiful hotties are always more unstable the higher you go.

She was very enthusiastic about going on a Sunday morning hike with me in London but she said she had a party to go to with girlfriends the night before, but will still make the 7:30am train into London from an hour away. She said she will try not to drink to much, blah blah blah - whatever.

So at 2am fookin in the morning I get a text from her saying she just got home and can't make it and is sorry, and that she will make it up to me. Obviously she lost control of her time or drinking - this woman is 40 and same age as me. If a woman can't figure out priorities in life by the time she is 40, she's fooken worth NEXTING.

So that's what I did, I texted her that life goes on and fook her drama and good luck. She texted me back the next morning saying it was just 'her simple change of plans" - WHAT THE FOOK!! YES, women rationalize their fooked up irresponsible behavior and REDUCE it to zero. This is the baggage that goes along with self-entitled hotties who think the world evolves around them. Most men would probably forgive her because she's a Cameron Diaz look alike - that is just intense miserable pain down the line for the AFC's.

NEXT please.

With respect,

Exodus.