"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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On esteem of the world

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God alone can absolve at the moment of repentance; he is the searcher of hearts; but men can judge only by actions; and no one, after having lost the esteem of the world, has a right to complain of diffidence, which makes this loss so difficult to be repaired.

I would have you think above all, my dear young friend, that to lose this esteem, it is sometimes enough to seem to set little value upon it, and do not tax this severity with injustice; for as the world has a right to think that no one renounces this precious jewel, who has good pretensions to it, whoever is not restrained by this consideration, is on the brink of danger.

-- Dangerous Liaisons, letter 32
If someone, by judging his/her actions, seems not to worry about losing the esteem of the world or your esteem of him/her then you will know that he/she is most probably here for evil.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If someone, by judging his/her actions, seems not to worry about losing the esteem of the world or your esteem of him/her then you will know that he/she is most probably here for evil.
Which is why this man wasn't evil.

 

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Which is why this man wasn't evil.
You didn't get it at all...

It's not about his perception of not losing his esteem of the world. Obviously mass murderers are not worried about that.
It's about your perception of him not being afraid of losing his esteem of the world. It's about qualifying him/her.
 

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You didn't get it at all...

It's not about his perception of not losing his esteem of the world. Obviously mass murderers are not worried about that.
It's about your perception of him not being afraid of losing his esteem of the world. It's about qualifying him/her.

What do you mean by that?
 

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if a thing or person is against reality and the long term advancement of humankind, that thing or person is evil, by definition.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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if a thing or person is against reality and the long term advancement of humankind, that thing or person is evil, by definition.
Depends on how you define advancement of humankind. Could altruism and pity be evil then? Helping those who are weak only provides resources to the weak and inferior at the expense of the strong. Then the weak are evil and we should execute them wholesale because their inferiority weakens the entire human race. Eugenics gave that argument.
Just saying...
Evil is an artificial construct, an arbitrary system of qualification. It is not quantifiable, it is relative, and based upon a complex system of morals which themselves are arbitrary.
 
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Seems that on SS the number of posts before Godwin's Law is resolved is 1 as soon as somebody is reading about history. :)

But Nazis were not the subject of this thread.

World = your world
Evil = your ex, your boss, your wifey
Esteem = your definition of esteem
Dignity = your definition of dignity

It's as pointless as mainstream to try to make people judge history and reality with the same level of hate or love.
 

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we all know that there's generic and there's individual definitions. Society itself is based upon that knowledge.
 
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