Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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On Control and mastering your emotions.

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It's odd how the more things change, the more they stay the same....

I've been working a direct-sales job for the past 6 months now... on the first day, they talk about taking control of situations that you encounter, and to not allow situations to control you (what most people do). What is meant by this is that when you go into a situation, you must have a goal set in mind of what is to be accomplished... and you must go out and do what it takes to accomplish that (in the job it means initiating the conversation, build rapport, control the other persons focus, and sign the deal).

**Side story : My job is door-to-door, and to have some fun, I decided that I would make up a spiel for any hot girls that answer. 'Hi, here's the deal... Santa lost his naughty and nice list, so this year we're using the honor system... so, which list do I put you on, naughty or nice?' Most of the girls would say 'naughty' I replied to one of them 'We've been getting an awful lot of naughty people on the list, so we're going to have to ask you to prove it...', she says 'well come inside and I'll show you.' And she did... Something I never expected to work so well.**

Anyway, you have to have leadership tendancies if you are going be taking control of situations. You have to be guiding people into the thinking that you want.

This ties in with mastering your emotions.... because there are two types of people : 'Those that allow their emotions to control their actions. And those gifted few that force their actions to control their emotions.'

How can you do that?

When you feel fear, you push forward.
When you feel depressed, you sing.
When you feel complacent, you think of your goals.
When you feel failure, you make one more attempt.

You have to make a habit of forcing yourself to get the results that you want and force through your negative emotions with positive actions.

If I had more time I would make this a little more in depth.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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And that is why we have so many people asking stu... newbie questions.
 

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It's a good reminder to learn to have self control and when to act when needed.
 
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