On Compliments

[McKindley]

I had a conversation with some friends a little while ago. We were talking about compliments. My idea was that compliments are fine, but you have to give someone a compliment that they aren't used to.

Think of something that she probably isn't told very often, but would LIKE to be told. If she's hot, don't say "hey, you're hot." She probably already knows she's hot.

Find out something else good about her that guys probably don't tell her. Tell her she's funny. hilarious, even. But DON'T tell her she's hot. Act like the fact that she's hot never crossed your mind. (I once had a girl tell me that if a guy told her she was hot it turned her off. She already knew she could have him, so why bother? was her reasoning)

 

[Slimijs]

Neg the 10, and compliment the 7.

That sums all there is to know about compliments.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Slimijs
Neg the 10, and compliment the 7.

That sums all there is to know about compliments.

Why would you neg hit a woman just because she is a 10? What if she's friendly and is obviously into you, what would neg hitting her accomplish?

 

[PImp]

cause it kinda drops the 10's level to your level or lower.

i think when u compilment a girl make ur compliment specfic don't let it be so general the more specfic the better IMO

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by PImp
cause it kinda drops the 10's level to your level or lower.

i think when u compilment a girl make ur compliment specfic don't let it be so general the more specfic the better IMO

Maybe guys who feel they do not merit a 10, should not talk to 10s. Like I said earlier, it doesn't make sense to neg hit a 10 if she likes you and shows it.

For example

HB10:Francisco, you know I can really get into you *wink*.
Francisco:You're cute. I can get into you too, even though you have spinach stuck in your teeth.

Maybe it's me, but that's just not my style.

 

[Slimijs]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Why would you neg hit a woman just because she is a 10? What if she's friendly and is obviously into you, what would neg hitting her accomplish?

My advise was only for the first approch only. Of course you won't neg a HB10 yoe have been dating 3 months. But if you neg her in the first 10 minutes of the conversation about 2-3 times, you are going to be separated from all the AFC's that are hitting on her, and she will be more attracted to you.

cause it kinda drops the 10's level to your level or lower.

Nah, it's my objective to lower her self-esteem a little bit. Not to make her seem worthles and low. Negs do that perfectly and give you a little position of power, thingy.

HB10:Francisco, you know I can really get into you *wink*. Francisco:You're cute. I can get into you too, even though you have spinach stuck in your teeth.

I would answer that one with a - "Yeah, but i doubt we can be together, you're just too nice for me!"


Anyway ... Neg the 10, and compliment the 7 in the first 10 - 25 minutes of the conversation.

 

[Maximus_Decimus]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Why would you neg hit a woman just because she is a 10? What if she's friendly and is obviously into you, what would neg hitting her accomplish?

Too many people on this forum only read the "letter of the law" but fail to see the "spirit of the law."

Franciso is right. If a 10 is already into you, is not showing you any disrespect, and you are building good rapport with her, then there is no need to neg her. "If it ain't broken, don't fix it!"

Maximus_Decimus

 

[McKindley]

. . . and this is why I usually tell people not to bother with neg hits. You don't HAVE to use them, and too many people use them poorly and come off as douchebags.