everywomanshero
Master Don Juan
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A radical view of what we call game turns out to be reality
Being pursued by one or more beautiful women is a great thing. At the beginner level one be content to end up in the bed of a beautiful woman even if she's flaking, *****y, or has serious issues. No matter how desperate for validation a man might currently be, there is going to come a time when this level simply becomes boring. To some guys stuck in the newb stage this post might seem a bit bizzare, or even downright delusional, but I swear by it as truth as best I know it.
The next stage is being a man who is pursued by women. One of the first steps to bridge the gap is to become aware of just how often us men are being pursued. I'll provide a story of how I came to realize my pursuers.
A long time ago I read something that said I needed to assume I was the prize that women were trying to win over, in fact, no matter what she said or did, she was actively pursuing me and trying to get me in bed (Swinggcat, email). I actually had to force myself to see things this way.
And for a long time I thought it was some "technique" I was doing, emotionally leading. I've came to realize though that it is not a technique but rather objectve reality. The technique was not creating the chasing, but the technique was learning to see that it was truly occuring and helped me stop myself from getting in my own way and killing the attraction process by not allowing her and baiting her to pursue me. At all times, even when I am actively baiting her into chasing me, I know this is what she wants. I know she wants to chase me. I know she is trying to get me in bed. And I know all I have to do is facilitate the conditions for this to happen without her feeling like a slut. AT first she often needs to chase me while under the guise that she is being pursued too (although many I've met liked to be seen as the pursuer, and we've even had some good laughs regarding this.) But the biggest part of all this is that I know no matter what is going on that is definitely the pursuer. EVen if I am talking a woman into coming over at 4 am, I know she is really the one pursuing me. If she weren't, why the hell would she be up talking on the phone to some guy who enjoys fvckng women? The only reason feasible is that she is trying to get me in bed or trying to get me to get her in bed.
Other ways to allow a woman to pursue:
1) Although I will go to womens' apartments, I make no effort to prevent them from catering to me. I drink their drinks, and I allow them to make the drink for me, even if it's just her going to get me a soda. I also allow them to impress me. I once had a woman coax over a raccon from her apts patio because I told her I thought they were cute. I knew she must have wanted to fvck me pretty bad to risk rabbies to lay me, and she was a nurse. ha. anyway I did fvck her about 2 hours later. I will let women call me. If I am pretty sure a woman won't call ( doesn't want me to think she's a slut) then I will help her out. If it's some chick from online, I will tell her to call me after she does <X> or say call me in 5 minutes Im finishing <X>. If it's a club girl I will call her that night but I will give her a reason to call me back so she can pursue me without worrying about running her image with me. This is what I call giving them bait to pursue me with.
2) People value what they have to work for. If I do all the work, she would never appreciate me anyway. I am ruining all the fun. I am not allowing her to chase me. I believe women like men who have interpersonal power over them. Think back to grade school, I bet you wanted the women that either seemed out of your league or somehow difficult. WHy? For the same reason you wouldn't likely turn down a job as casino owner to work at burger king. We place higher value on things that seem unattainable to that we must work really hard to obtain. If I cleaned the house every day, those who live with me would not appreciate it and would even come to expect it. But if everyone is busy cleaning and esp. if I am the one who tends to slack, suddenly it's a big deal that I've cleaned. Silly human nature.
3) Interpretation of their own behavior: I believe that people in general, including women, tend to interpret their own behaviors post hoc. If a woman has called me, driven to see me, and spent 3 hours of time with me, she has a significant investment. If she doesn't get laid, she has wasted a lot of time and energy. If I had done all the work, her investment would be far less. She would still try to get me in bed to satisfy her validation that I like her and to reduce her horny urges, but that she is invested is just an extra bonus boost that makes all her work so worthwhile when she has a a releasing orgasm and is trembling in my arms.
Anyway, again some of this might seem overly simplistic but to me this is high level ****. Techniques and such I actually consider low level and simplistic compared to the power of discovering objective reality. I have been heavily influenced by my own life experiences, but also by Swinggcat and Brent. I personally believe being seduced by women is more about removing mental barriers to success and allowing oneself to become his own person. Really quickly I will explain what I mean by this:
Blocked Person: But I don't want to dress like that, people will think I am trying to be like X.
Unblocked person: I want to dress in this way that really shows my best features and unique sense of style. I am trying to become myself, no need to consider what's not true.
With all the cultural, developmental, and stifling influences one faces in the modern world, becoming one's own person is indeed a much bigger challenge than learning how to allow women to pursue a man.
Being pursued by one or more beautiful women is a great thing. At the beginner level one be content to end up in the bed of a beautiful woman even if she's flaking, *****y, or has serious issues. No matter how desperate for validation a man might currently be, there is going to come a time when this level simply becomes boring. To some guys stuck in the newb stage this post might seem a bit bizzare, or even downright delusional, but I swear by it as truth as best I know it.
The next stage is being a man who is pursued by women. One of the first steps to bridge the gap is to become aware of just how often us men are being pursued. I'll provide a story of how I came to realize my pursuers.
A long time ago I read something that said I needed to assume I was the prize that women were trying to win over, in fact, no matter what she said or did, she was actively pursuing me and trying to get me in bed (Swinggcat, email). I actually had to force myself to see things this way.
And for a long time I thought it was some "technique" I was doing, emotionally leading. I've came to realize though that it is not a technique but rather objectve reality. The technique was not creating the chasing, but the technique was learning to see that it was truly occuring and helped me stop myself from getting in my own way and killing the attraction process by not allowing her and baiting her to pursue me. At all times, even when I am actively baiting her into chasing me, I know this is what she wants. I know she wants to chase me. I know she is trying to get me in bed. And I know all I have to do is facilitate the conditions for this to happen without her feeling like a slut. AT first she often needs to chase me while under the guise that she is being pursued too (although many I've met liked to be seen as the pursuer, and we've even had some good laughs regarding this.) But the biggest part of all this is that I know no matter what is going on that is definitely the pursuer. EVen if I am talking a woman into coming over at 4 am, I know she is really the one pursuing me. If she weren't, why the hell would she be up talking on the phone to some guy who enjoys fvckng women? The only reason feasible is that she is trying to get me in bed or trying to get me to get her in bed.
Other ways to allow a woman to pursue:
1) Although I will go to womens' apartments, I make no effort to prevent them from catering to me. I drink their drinks, and I allow them to make the drink for me, even if it's just her going to get me a soda. I also allow them to impress me. I once had a woman coax over a raccon from her apts patio because I told her I thought they were cute. I knew she must have wanted to fvck me pretty bad to risk rabbies to lay me, and she was a nurse. ha. anyway I did fvck her about 2 hours later. I will let women call me. If I am pretty sure a woman won't call ( doesn't want me to think she's a slut) then I will help her out. If it's some chick from online, I will tell her to call me after she does <X> or say call me in 5 minutes Im finishing <X>. If it's a club girl I will call her that night but I will give her a reason to call me back so she can pursue me without worrying about running her image with me. This is what I call giving them bait to pursue me with.
2) People value what they have to work for. If I do all the work, she would never appreciate me anyway. I am ruining all the fun. I am not allowing her to chase me. I believe women like men who have interpersonal power over them. Think back to grade school, I bet you wanted the women that either seemed out of your league or somehow difficult. WHy? For the same reason you wouldn't likely turn down a job as casino owner to work at burger king. We place higher value on things that seem unattainable to that we must work really hard to obtain. If I cleaned the house every day, those who live with me would not appreciate it and would even come to expect it. But if everyone is busy cleaning and esp. if I am the one who tends to slack, suddenly it's a big deal that I've cleaned. Silly human nature.
3) Interpretation of their own behavior: I believe that people in general, including women, tend to interpret their own behaviors post hoc. If a woman has called me, driven to see me, and spent 3 hours of time with me, she has a significant investment. If she doesn't get laid, she has wasted a lot of time and energy. If I had done all the work, her investment would be far less. She would still try to get me in bed to satisfy her validation that I like her and to reduce her horny urges, but that she is invested is just an extra bonus boost that makes all her work so worthwhile when she has a a releasing orgasm and is trembling in my arms.
Anyway, again some of this might seem overly simplistic but to me this is high level ****. Techniques and such I actually consider low level and simplistic compared to the power of discovering objective reality. I have been heavily influenced by my own life experiences, but also by Swinggcat and Brent. I personally believe being seduced by women is more about removing mental barriers to success and allowing oneself to become his own person. Really quickly I will explain what I mean by this:
Blocked Person: But I don't want to dress like that, people will think I am trying to be like X.
Unblocked person: I want to dress in this way that really shows my best features and unique sense of style. I am trying to become myself, no need to consider what's not true.
With all the cultural, developmental, and stifling influences one faces in the modern world, becoming one's own person is indeed a much bigger challenge than learning how to allow women to pursue a man.
