She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yep.Originally posted by Wyldfire
I could be wrong,
Actually...society has changed over the last few decades. Although it hasn't really made for a change for any of the guys here, it does make things more complicated for men. Their instincts tell them one thing while society conditions them to go against those natural instincts, which makes for a lot of men who are just plain clueless with women.
Yep, and then make your own decision.Originally posted by InsidiousNstinct
Take her views for what they are worth...
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Sometimes...but ONLY to someone who has first behaved like an a$$hole towards me. You get what you give.Originally posted by Don Juanabbe
You really are a c*nt.
I tend to be somewhat philosophical and a bit of an intellectual. Yes, sometimes what I write can be confusing. It seems to me that if those b*tching were confused about what I meant they should have just asked me to clarify what I meant in simpler terms. The most ironic thing is that the majority of those who are arguing with me think I said the opposite of what I actually did say. And here I thought men were supposed to be the logical and thinking gender. After some of the responses I have read on here, I am starting to doubt that is true.Originally posted by MrCode
Yep, and then make your own decision.
I don't have a problem with Wyldfire or her giving advice here. I don't think she has some evil plot to turn the guys on this site into wussy slaves to women.
But, Wyldfire, sweetheart, there is something about your writing style that can be a tad bit confusing. I consider myself reasonably intelligent and well-read and it took me quite some time to really decipher what you were saying in the OP. I even wrote out a summation for myself.
Maybe it is just overly philosophical when typically the advice on this site is very practical and straight to the point. I don't know, but it certainly isn't necessary for all of us to make a war out of it. So this shall be my last post in this thread, good day.
Could be, but I'm almost never wrong. My memory is extremely good. I know he and I discussed this stuff before and that we essentially agreed. The one area where we didn't agree was on his belief that women are more sexually geared than men are.(can't recall his exact terminology as it was a couple or so years ago)Originally posted by prosemont
Yep.
I think that's a little harsh and close-minded. Never heard of anything such as curiousity? lolOriginally posted by Wyldfire
If you truly believed it were garbage then you wouldn't be here. Every guy who is here came here because they felt like a failure with women and it made them miserable.
You might be wise to take that chip off your shoulder, go read the bible and do more reading than typing...but I digress.
This is true. As I said elsewhere...I can always sort the men from the boys based on how they react to my posts. You'll almost never see me insulting anyone or being biotchy towards them UNTIL they attack me first...just because I happen to have tits. Some are bitter towards females who have hurt them. Some are just fronting and trying to impress the other guys here and convince those guys and themselves that they are a "DJ". The MEN here treat the women no different than they do the other guys who post here. If the advice or posts are good and have merit, they acknowledge that. If they disagree, they do so based on a RATIONAL argument...not insecurity, anger, bitterness and all this emotion we're seeing on this thread.Originally posted by *29*
Last post for this retarded post.
ALL YOU GUYS. LOOK AT YOU. YES YOU, AND YOU, AND YOU!
YOUR TOO WORKED UP CUZ WYLDFIRE'S A WOMAN.
YOU'RE LETTING HER CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS.
YOU CLAIM YOU ARE A MAN.
ACT LIKE ONE.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Or perhaps you simply fail to understand what I'm saying...Originally posted by Don Juanabbe
Don't listen to her, she's either fearmongering, trying to confuse all the young 'uns on here, or she simply has no f*cking clue what she's on about.
well..I don't have a problem with C-nt as long as it is shaved, styled, and clean.Originally posted by Wyldfire
Or perhaps you simply fail to understand what I'm saying...
For someone who felt compelled to call me a "C*nt"...you're a good one to talk...you're a far bigger one than I have been.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You're the waitress, right? Only in AmericaOriginally posted by Wyldfire
I tend to be somewhat philosophical and a bit of an intellectual. Yes, sometimes what I write can be confusing.
(self important twaddle deleted)
You and Wyldfire should reply to my questions first il duce.Originally posted by il_duce
This thread went to hell after page 2.
Please lock it now
First off, I'm a guy, so applying an adjective describing a b*tchy female doesn't apply. Second, I am not on here touting my own horn and basically being a cyber attention hor.Originally posted by Wyldfire
Or perhaps you simply fail to understand what I'm saying...
For someone who felt compelled to call me a "C*nt"...you're a good one to talk...you're a far bigger one than I have been.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.