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STR8UP said:
Maybe she does have a golden pu$$y, but I would NEVER, EVER let a woman control the frame like that.

I still haven't agreed to go to her church. I tried to tell her maybe I will, once we get into a relationship. Like Jophil said.

She is sticking to her guns. She is saying nothing will happen until I go to her church.

I haven't agreed to anything. I wish there was a way around this other than dumping her and finding another girl.

If it comes down to it, what's the big deal attending her church one time? That's all she asks me to do. Just attend and see what it's like.
 

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Vlad the Impaler said:
I still haven't agreed to go to her church. I tried to tell her maybe I will, once we get into a relationship. Like Jophil said.

She is sticking to her guns. She is saying nothing will happen until I go to her church.

I haven't agreed to anything. I wish there was a way around this other than dumping her and finding another girl.

If it comes down to it, what's the big deal attending her church one time? That's all she asks me to do. Just attend and see what it's like.

What about my idea of telling her to attend a church of your choosing once? Maker her attend YOUR church if nothing else. But in the meantime stick to your guns and keep hanging out with her and see if she follows your frame.
 
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ketostix said:
What about my idea of telling her to attend a church of your choosing once? Maker her attend YOUR church if nothing else. But in the meantime stick to your guns and keep hanging out with her and see if she follows your frame.

Keto, I tried telling her that too. She said she can't go to any other church. She is going out of town this weekend, she is trying to get me to go this Sunday all by myself. She said she knows some American guy there who married her Brazilian friend. I guess he got brainwashed into going. She said this guy will show me around and be my church buddy.

I don't even have a church.

Then, she said if I don't go this weekend we can go together. I asked her if that is a good idea? She said it's fine. But I know it's not fine, because of how you explained the situation.
 

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taiyuu_otoko said:
Um, not quite. They only value the American men that can AFFORD to go overseas.

And even then, they value the guy for his passport, and what it represents to her, not his mad DJ skills.
Not so 'down under'. Maybe you are thinking of some Asian trainwreck of a country.
I have served with numerous GI's and have shown a lot of them around town.
The local ladies love them for their politeness, social skills and perhaps their generosity.
 

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Dear All,
Think I agree with Jophil on American Men,they are so polite and articulate....On several occasions I have been addressed as Sir by young Americans,rather quaint I think...The US women we see here are not so bad either,but I saw what others have complained about when on a Cruise some years ago.there was a group of maybe eight US "Ladies" and were they rude and opiniated and Soo loud,there was also a group of Aussie Rugby Players along and Yeah they were loud too,but for coarseness and vulgarity these girls won the prize.
 

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Vlad the Impaler said:
Keto, I tried telling her that too. She said she can't go to any other church. She is going out of town this weekend, she is trying to get me to go this Sunday all by myself. She said she knows some American guy there who married her Brazilian friend. I guess he got brainwashed into going. She said this guy will show me around and be my church buddy.

I don't even have a church.

Then, she said if I don't go this weekend we can go together. I asked her if that is a good idea? She said it's fine. But I know it's not fine, because of how you explained the situation.

She's still controlling the frame like a pimp. She got you believing her word is law! Dude. Just give it up. She got you beat on this church thing...now she wants you to meet some other poor chump who got sucked into the church and got married so you can see how you are suppose to act. LOL. Lambs to the slaughter. Let me tell you something. If you don't believe in God and her church, it's weak to go just for pvssy. It's weak to convert just for pvssy.
You talk about this girl like she is the only girl you are dating. Cut this one loose and spin more plates man. What are your requirements in a woman? Is she meeting them? Is she letting you lead? Those are the questions you should be asking yourself. She's already the prize in your mind. Church or no church, you lost this round.
 

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Vlad the Impaler said:
Keto, I tried telling her that too. She said she can't go to any other church. She is going out of town this weekend, she is trying to get me to go this Sunday all by myself. She said she knows some American guy there who married her Brazilian friend. I guess he got brainwashed into going. She said this guy will show me around and be my church buddy.

I don't even have a church.

Then, she said if I don't go this weekend we can go together. I asked her if that is a good idea? She said it's fine. But I know it's not fine, because of how you explained the situation.
Is this a church or a cult? (I'm being serious.)

Regardless, you haven't kissed this girl yet and it's already way too much work. Go to church if YOU want to, not because it's a stipulation for the progression of a relationship. There's nothing wrong (and everything right) with trying something new because you want to do it. But she's busting your balls about it, and by going you're surrendering a tiny part of your autonomy for pu**y futures that may never pay off. Warrior74 summed it up nicely - she's in control and you need to jettison.
 

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Yeah, what is the exact name of the church? I once unwittingly became entangled with a bonafide cult when I was a college freshman and these stipulations are definitely a red flag of a real cult.
 
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Warrior74 said:
She's still controlling the frame like a pimp. She got you believing her word is law! Dude. Just give it up. She got you beat on this church thing...now she wants you to meet some other poor chump who got sucked into the church and got married so you can see how you are suppose to act. LOL. Lambs to the slaughter. Let me tell you something. If you don't believe in God and her church, it's weak to go just for pvssy. It's weak to convert just for pvssy.
You talk about this girl like she is the only girl you are dating. Cut this one loose and spin more plates man. What are your requirements in a woman? Is she meeting them? Is she letting you lead? Those are the questions you should be asking yourself. She's already the prize in your mind. Church or no church, you lost this round.

I'm already leaning towards nexting her for being a prude.

I'm not going to the church. I'm just making her think I am considering it but I will never have time to actually go.
 

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I saw this thread start as I was preparing to leave 'Merika for a three week buisness trip.

My first thought was, ***** is ***** and women are women the world over.

One of the things that attracts native women to American men, or foreign men, is when the men arrive in their country for 95% of the countries on earth, your arrival there indicates that you have already obtained a certain level of wealth and status by virtue of the fact you arrived there. and by your means to arrive you are probably already in line with the top of society...maybe not the richest of the rich but in most cases you are rich in their eyes.

Having lived in a latin american country for a year in college and carrying out a relationship with a girl in that country for most of my time there, while ****ing around with hot chicks at my leisure during that time, I have to say I will not likely find myself in a long-term relationship/ marriage with a woman from a foreign culture again. I say this because there are so many cultural cues that you miss when you are not native in a culture even if you are fluent in the local language. I think you can pick up on these when the culture is based in your native tongue-for instance English/Canadien, American/New Zealand. I believe you will have a better chance a qualifying a lady when you all think on the same language wave-length. My girlfriend in Costa Rica was beautiful, very feminine and did many things that most American women have long forgotten, however when **** hit the fan down there it made a bigger mess than I have experienced stateside.

With globalization, commercialism and the spread of the culture of consumerism I really do not believe that you will escape the downsides of modern culture and its effect on women by leaving 'Merika to find a bride. Sure there are success stories, but I've got to say there must be 5-10 failures for each success.

And Vlad-the Garotas will **** like a bytch in heat but you have to push the game...and they expect you to otherwise they may think you have the ghey.

I think women are attracted to the exotic much the same as men are and even a 'good' one who is married may fall sway to the bigger, better deal upon your arrival whether she is committed or not...at least that has been my personal experience.

Str8up-how does your 'myth of the quality woman' mesh with your desire to search for women on foreign shores?

I really enjoy leaving the states and meeting women across the world and maybe one day I will enter a relationship with one of these foreigners but I don't think it is a cure-all for the American ***** Syndrome.

Like I said in the beginning, the world over: ***** is ***** and women are women.
 

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IamMyownMan said:
Str8up-how does your 'myth of the quality woman' mesh with your desire to search for women on foreign shores?
But like I said in the beginning: the world over, ***** is ***** and women are women.
You answered the question for me. Kind of.

Women are women at their core. They are all CAPABLE of lying, cheating, and manipulating. that doesn't meant that there are cultures in this world today where women are kept more in check and are act in a more feminine manner.

If you think that the "Myth of the Quality Woman" doesn't mesh with seeking foreign women for relationships, then you are misunderstanding the myth.
 

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Str8up-for clarification, I was actually curious about your personal take on the interplay between the two.
 

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Women are women wherever you go, sure. But just the fact that you need far less "game" in Brazil versus the US shows that culture and upbringing can have a huge impact on a woman's behavior. As I am sure there are countries where women are even tougher to game than the US. Think of YOUR game like currency....it's worth more in some places, less in others, so you spend more or less depending on the situation.

By that same token, the same wuss-a$$ behavior that is sure to drive a woman away in America will probably also repel her in Brazil. She just might tolerate more of it for longer down there than an American girl would.
 
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And Vlad-the Garotas will **** like a bytch in heat but you have to push the game...and they expect you to otherwise they may think you have the ghey.

I know.. I have dated Brazilian girls before and they put out fast but this girl is different. I think she really is on the religion tip... So I have been ignoring her calls for the past 2 days, just letting it go to v/m. Before I'd be talking to her most of the time.

I'll ignore her ass for awhile and see if her behavior changes. If not, I don't care because I don't give 2 craps about her. She's going out of town this weekend (to a church 10 hours away) So there is no way I'll see her again for awhile, so no point in blabbing on the phone with her.


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There are some scary fvcking cults in Brazil for sure. I would tell this :crazy: 'chick' to go fly a kite.

Yeah, my interest in her has fallen to about 0. I dont feel like answering the phone when she calls anymore. It's too bad, because I picked her off the internet and met up with her.. It should have worked out if she was a normal chic. But you never know what kind of nuts you pull of the web.
 

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Fuzzx-If you read what I posted, I said when I was in CR. Yo hablo bastante bien el espanol, y estoy bien seguro que tengo bastante exeperiencia internacional para comentar en este sujeto...American ignorance, puhlease.

I am saying that women have basic instincts that are common throughout the world...like one would be that no woman anywhere I've been wants a wuss for a partner, as Samspade said. Cultural differences are one of the joys of travel abroad for me; they allow me to expand my own horizons. And of course there are differences between women based on culture and upbringing but to imply they don't have basic human drives is daft.

From your take on my 'American ignorance' and your use of the word lot, my first guess would be that your are British-so why don't you drop the colonial mentality for a moment, cause not every American has been stuck in the States their whole life. All I was doing was voicing my opinion which is as valid as yours.
Even though you say you met your lady-friend down south, does the fact that you are in a relationship with a foreign woman on North American soil discount your opinion? I think not but your own statement, "IMO dating a foreign woman requires you to be on foreign soil," contradicts that.

FWIW- I interact with people of cultures far and wide on a day to day basis because of the business I am in.

I ended my last LTR with an American chick a little over a month ago.

If you want to have a pissing match about travel go ahead cause you may have seen more of the world than me, but I'm not the one in North America at the moment.:rockon:

You could have only addressed me, but instead you had to throw, "American ignorance" in there and attack my countrymen as well you presumptuous wanker.
 
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Update on the Brazilian.

I have been ignoring her calls for the past 3 days and I haven't spoken or contacted her at all.

Today she texts me

"Hello love! How are you doing? I have some great news for you. Maybe I will call you tonight. Have a great day!"

I waited awhile and texted her back "hey, I've been very busy. What's the great news?"

Then she replied

"I am sure that you will love it! Haha so I will call you tonight or you call me?"

I replied "ok. we will talk tonight"


Now, what could this news be? Is she going to say she has been cleared to fool around?

I can't imagine what else it could be. Anything else I won't care about. Maybe this is some sort of weird sh!t test.
 

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Negative, self defeating thinking.

STR8UP said:
I was reading roissy's latest blog post about how the men of the world in general view American women.

I don't know where this poster is from, but it's interesting to hear it right from the horse's mouth:



Contrast this to the fact that American men are almost universally LOVED by women the world over, and it becomes readily apparent just how undesirable American women are when it comes to the mating game. And this is what American men have to deal with every day.

Seriously.....we're fishing in a pond that has been polluted with the feminist entitlement mentality that has turned our women into a bunch of loud mouthed men with t!ts.

I'm sure this thread will turn into the usual circle-jerk of halfway reformed AFC's defending the fact that there are indeed TWO decent women in each and every state of the Union, but I would like to engage in a REAL discussion about the HUUUUUUGE disparity between the REST of the world's attitude toward American women vs. American men insofar as the mating game is concerned.

As American men we have little means of comparison, unless we happen to visit foreign lands (which I have).

It seems to me that men from other countries might be a more accurate gauge of the quality of our women we are stuck with.

Oh yea, see my post at 7:05pm. I've said it here many times before, but that's my plan. Ride out the next few years dealing with this Ameritrash, then hop the pond to find a nice, FEMININE woman.

Frankly, I can't wait.
 
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