"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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On-again Off-Again

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I'm looking for some opinions on what you guys think of girls who are in "on-again, off-again" relationships.

Many on SoSuave, I think, commonly says that she is just stringing him along like a sucker. However, there is also the possibility that she could be naively trying to making something work (like AFC guys) that just can't, giving another idiotic go or chance despite the previous stressful argument rather than just breaking it off coldly.

Which (or somewhere in the middle perhaps) one do you think those was says are like? Is she stringing him like a sucker, or holding on to something she should let go (same goes from the guy too obviously, but I'm looking find what the girl is thinking)?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I see what you're asking, but it's a very vague question.

Most of the time when a woman is "confused" or is in and out of the same relationship, she's getting out in attempt to look for something better. She wants some self-affirmation that she can do better. If she fails, her confidence sinks and she falls right back into what she had before.

There are exceptions in which women are just fickle. Sometimes they really do love a man, but she doesn't know whether it's good for her or not. Although this doesn't happen often, I've seen it. A lot of people on here always elude to the fact that a woman is not interested when she asks for time away or a break. While this is almost always correct, there are always exceptions.

There's really nothing you can do about any of this except to keep improving you. The more you worry about what a woman is thinking, the more you're just digging yourself a hole. Worry about yourself, then let a woman worry about you.
 

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If your woman loves you, she will not let the relationship end.

On-again, off-again relationships is a waste of time, have you ever think of the opportunity cost?
 

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I'm talking for a friend who is asking me for advice. We had some abiguities if she had a boyfriend or not (we didn't like the idea of girl who is branch swinging or a girl is likes to string guys along). It turns out that she is single but have been going off and on since at least January (the on-off is a LDR BTW).
 
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