"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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On A Path

JustLikeWater

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Ok so this past week this girl adds me on myspace and she is fine. I say something vague on one of her pictures and get her to start talking to me. She tells me I'm adorable, but what should I take from that? I ended up getting her number, but here's the real problem: I'm kind of shy. These past few weeks I've been way more comfortable in social situations, but there is still quite a bit of work. I struggle having a conversation with everyone, and its usually short. Like when I talk with people, they usually start the conversation, but the topic keeps changing quickly. So what I'm really asking is probably like how can I improve my conversational skills? This girl is finnnneee and improved conversation skills would be great.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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JustLikeWater

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Well like I said, I got her number, but I wouldn't have a chance to take her out for like 5 weeks.
 

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Then, what's the probelm?
just game other girls while you wait for those 5 weeks to pass


as for ocnversational skills...the only way to get better is to talk to more people, that you knwo or don't know..practice talking about a bunch of random subjects...and sometimes getting deep into a subject

just talk more..it's that easy

and there are many threads on conversation already...use the search function
 

JustLikeWater

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By the 5 weeks I meant hang with anyone, which is the problem. I'm too busy between school, swim, and homework, and in those 5 weeks someone else might get her. After those 5 weeks though, I'll have time again.

Another issue is my school's homecoming is approaching and it would be sick to bring this girl, but I'm thinking it would be awkward to invite her and meet her in person at the same time. Homecoming is within these 5 weeks, so I could take someone else if I really want to go.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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