"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
On a night out clubing
- Thread starter S0LID
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What i do is go dance with my friends and try to make eye contact with chicks around me....if they respond to me positivly ( give me strong EC back or smile) then I start dancing with them...and maybe find them in a club later.
Go for number close if you see she is with friends,girls will not ditch their friends for you.
JT47319
Master Don Juan
keep hating yourself, it'll do you good - clubbing is for the music.. but oh wait unless it's one of those crappy hip hop clubs.Originally posted by S0LID
how many grls do you approach?
I went out last night n approached zero n I hate myself for it.
Dude,....the hate for now...is good....it teaches you to get up and get going...growing isnt easy...so get mad...be glad it happened now..so from now on you can approach...
I felt the same way today.....I didnt approach last night..when it was obvious i should have...just do it....i absolutly hate rejection..that why i dont approach but it sucks even more saying what if....you may never see them again..most likely you wont....whats worse is talking and getting rapport...only to fail to number close..thats bad too...
Let it be painful and dont let it happen again
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Now im just there having fun with my friends, i check out a couple of them, and if i think there may be a green light, i'll aproach. Its better meeting few and be selective about if you think you're gona have success, if they satisfy what you want, after you checked out with who they are, etc.. than aproaching a lot of girls you see and be much more superficial.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
First -you have to look good in the club. Usually there's a dress code and you should not push the envelop when it comes to that dress code. Recently I've been sporting a poka shell necklace just for a little somethin somethin on top.
Second - be in the zone, when you're in the club you have to have the sense of I'm walking out of here haveing atleast made out with one chick. It's a low bar but when you have that mind set it keeps you focused and on your game.
Third- drinks and dancing are crucial, not only being able to dance or drink but being able to dance well while getting your drink on. Hey these chicks are here to party and unless they see that you are there to party too then they won't be interested. Oh yes your dancing ability should be good and the type of music being played should make NO DIFFERENCE period.
Fourth- Catch them staring, whether you're dancing with friends or by yourself you should be ablt to catch a girl staring at you while you're dancing without having her notice you looking back at her. Only occasional glances while you continue your survey of the dance floor and bar areas looking for other prospects. If a girl has been looking at you for two songs then it's a safe bet she's interested. If a girl is laser locked on you at the bar it's a pretty good bet she's interested. If a girl or girls start folowing you around the dance floor attempting to dance with you, its a pretty strong sign that they are interested.
I've logged tons upon tons of hours in night clubs and typically come out on top or at least ahead of where i started. I'm definately not saying that this will work for you evey time and you're going to be taking a girl home with you every time you go out but if you stick to the routine you'll see things improve for you dramatically.
Also concider that I live in Las Vegas, know a lot of bouncers, also alot of executives who visit from out of town who ask me where to go. I freaquent the VIP areas and NEVER pay to get in anywhere. Most of that has come with just going out alot but you can do the same thing some what if you just spend more time in the club.