"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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OMG.... what the hell is going on?

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I have known a girl for some time now, and we went to prom together b/c she asked me to go. We had a decent time. Even after prom, we talked to each other almost every day in school. However, for some reason, she seems to be avoiding me on AIM constantly, although we talked on AIM every day before prom. Whenever I say hi to her, she goes away or even logs off. Does she hate me? What's going on?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Your letting it work you up, she has decided that you got a little too close and she doesn't want to lead you on. Unfortunately if you try to get closer, she will force you to back off. and if you try to re-establish the friendship the way it was before the prom, she will force you to back off anyway thinking your still trying to get close. You're just gonna have to write this one off and move on, until she makes the first move and re-establishes the friendship and by that time, you're probably not interested anyway. phew...
 

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MacDiddy said:
Your letting it work you up, she has decided that you got a little too close and she doesn't want to lead you on. Unfortunately if you try to get closer, she will force you to back off. and if you try to re-establish the friendship the way it was before the prom, she will force you to back off anyway thinking your still trying to get close. You're just gonna have to write this one off and move on, until she makes the first move and re-establishes the friendship and by that time, you're probably not interested anyway. phew...
the above is BULLS*IT.

She liked you, she gave you a chance to be her boyfriend and you didn’t bite the bait and she got tired of chasseing you, now she's probably found someone else who will bite at the bait she puts out.
 

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Stop overusing IMs...at first it's alright...but after awhile it's annoying as hell when someone logs on and sends you a message within 5 seconds of getting on. It shrieks desperation. She's probably avoiding you because you made a habit of monopolizing her time online by keeping her stuck on AIM. That's why I refuse to use any IMs...hate them.

If you want to send messages online just use email.
 

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Wyldfire said:
Stop overusing IMs...at first it's alright...but after awhile it's annoying as hell when someone logs on and sends you a message within 5 seconds of getting on. It shrieks desperation. She's probably avoiding you because you made a habit of monopolizing her time online by keeping her stuck on AIM. That's why I refuse to use any IMs...hate them.
AGAIN MORE BULLS*IT :D.

look why did she ask YOU to the prom THINK ABOUT IT how long was she chaseing your ass for, you didnt bite the bait so she went looking for someone eles who would.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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It's not BS...it's true. I used to use IM to talk to a few people here and there. However, I made the mistake of giving my IM name to a couple of guys from an online dating site and they drove me up the wall. If I opened the Instant Messenger they were on...waiting...lurking...and within 3 seconds they were already IMing me stuff like "About time you logged on!", "There you are!", etc, etc. It got to the point that I just uninstalled the thing and have never used it since. The only thing worse than a clingy guy is a clingy guy who clings via Instant Messenger. The best way to avoid coming across as an IM clingon is NEVER IM the other person first...NEVER.
 

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I agree w/ Wyldfire

Wyldfire said:
Stop overusing IMs...at first it's alright...but after awhile it's annoying as hell when someone logs on and sends you a message within 5 seconds of getting on. It shrieks desperation. She's probably avoiding you because you made a habit of monopolizing her time online by keeping her stuck on AIM. That's why I refuse to use any IMs...hate them.

If you want to send messages online just use email.

I don't think she hates you dude. Its just that after awhile you shouldn't rely on AIM to talk to her. Talk to her IRL and see what she thinks of you. Don't forget the kino
 

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Did you screw her after the prom and *** on her face? And didn't even call her the next day to say you had a good time? That would piss any chick off royal.
 
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