"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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omg i STILL suck at cold approaches

Soprano

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god damn..... ive come a long way from a couple years aog and i am now confident in my game except cold approaches, i straght up BLOW at it.... can someone give me some tips for actually starting the conversation and the first things to say to her?

once the ice is broken im usually good go to from there, but i just go blank when i want to make the approach and start thinking about all the "what ifs"
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Alrighty..

1. See girl
2. Observe in 3 seconds what she's wearing, how cute she is and what she is doing.
3. Walk up to said girl and start with either 'hey', 'those shoes look funny', 'your hair is so pink!! OMG!', 'what's ____ (persay a book)', ask for help from her, etc.

That's the beginning, simple as pie.
 

Outlook

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I struggle with this too. Being not so good looking and very shy it's a difficult barrier to overcome.

How exactly am I supposed to continue a conversation with some person after opening with a remark about their shoes or some other random thing? Cold approaching practically screams a statement of intent so I don't know how to break the ice with someone who doesn't even want to talk to me (yet)
 

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Im not shy and I think I scrub up pretty well, I look at girls and I feel confident Im just like what the **** do I say. Sometimes its made easy if the girl starts the conversation with me or sometimes I say something and then I cant remember what I said the next day.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Microphone Fiend

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it takes a lot of cold approaches to get "good" The greats talk about doin thousands so dont sweat the first hundred or so, lol. Even then the success and sex hopefully comes before that anyways
 

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Soprano said:
god damn..... ive come a long way from a couple years aog and i am now confident in my game except cold approaches, i straght up BLOW at it.... can someone give me some tips for actually starting the conversation and the first things to say to her?

once the ice is broken im usually good go to from there, but i just go blank when i want to make the approach and start thinking about all the "what ifs"

sounds like youre still in stage one if your questioning yourself.

of course we all do it, but start reaching down your pants and using your b*lls. Tell the world youre the sh*t and start acting like it. approach her with the mindset that youre the sh*t, and stop acting like a wussy.

SARGE ON.
 
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