"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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DivinityCove

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So i'm in highschool and i've made plans with a chick to go to a local park/nature reserve to hang out. After sending her talking about tomorrow plans she sent me this

"is it ok if i wear jeans? I don't wanna shave my legs."

Normally I don't care if girls don't shave there legs or not it doesn't bother me one bit, plus this girl usually wears jeans most of the time anyways. So my question to you is why would she ask me this? and how should i respond?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DivinityCove said:
So i'm in highschool and i've made plans with a chick to go to a local park/nature reserve to hang out. After sending her talking about tomorrow plans she sent me this

"is it ok if i wear jeans? I don't wanna shave my legs."

Normally I don't care if girls don't shave there legs or not it doesn't bother me one bit, plus this girl usually wears jeans most of the time anyways. So my question to you is why would she ask me this? and how should i respond?
I don't think it means much of anything in THIS context, other than she's concerned about what you think about what she wears. Maybe she thinks she's supposed to wear shorts for the outing.

Or possibly...

The leg shaving thing might be BS. She might have her period and feel more comfortable in jeans rather than shorts in case of um, leakage.

Either way, who cares? Just say, "Yeah no prob."

When you get a bit older, "I /am not going to/forgot to shave my legs" means "I have no plans to get horizontal tonight*."

But just for a date in the park? It doesn't really matter either way.

*Another thought for the Female Translator.
 

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Mike32ct said:
I don't think it means much of anything in THIS context, other than she's concerned about what you think about what she wears. Maybe she thinks she's supposed to wear shorts for the outing.

Or possibly...

The leg shaving thing might be BS. She might have her period and feel more comfortable in jeans rather than shorts in case of um, leakage.

Either way, who cares? Just say, "Yeah no prob."

When you get a bit older, "I /am not going to/forgot to shave my legs" means "I have no plans to get horizontal tonight."

But just for a date in the park? It doesn't really matter either way.
Who knows thanks for the advice she hardly ever wears shorts. Actually i don't think I've only ever seen her in shorts once and that's when she knew would be out somewhere were she'd get dirty.
 
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