Older and more together=less women

[jd782]

Ok, I have a weird dilemma. Maybe it's just me, but it's caught my attention. When I was younger, I was really emotional, moody, would flip out if I spilled a glass of water. Or anything really minor. But I got tons of women. It was almost like their mothering instincts took over. And they all wanted to spend time with me.

After around 25 or so, is when I started to get control over my emotions. Now I'm 31. I have a really laid back attiude. Nothing bothers me. But these last few years, I've been having a tough time getting women. Even as friends. It seems like they are saying, he's got it under control, he dosent need me.

Sometimes to test this theory I'll act like I'm upset about something and sulk. And any women around me will ask me if I'm ok.

Does Anyone understand what I'm saying? Any suggestions? If being moody will help me get more women, I dont know. But at 31, the moody emotional child dosent seem to cool.

Thanks.

 

[joekerr31]

i find the opposite. i find women like the fact that ive got it together. to be honest, i find in your early 30s theres a plethora of late 20s early 30s women out there that are scared to death that they wont ever have kids and will do anything for a man whose got himself together.

i think perhaps your problem is that your mixing up laid back with boring?

women still want a man who is filled with passion.

thats why women love a man with a sense of humor. it shows that his mind is still sharp and active.

if you're too laid back they cringe at the thought that you'll be one of those lay around on the couch all day eating potatoe chips type of guys.

J

 

[RobLB]

Originally posted by joekerr31
i find the opposite. i find women like the fact that ive got it together. to be honest, i find in your early 30s theres a plethora of late 20s early 30s women out there that are scared to death that they wont ever have kids and will do anything for a man whose got himself together.

J

Then, when they do find that man that has himself together, they break you down and convince you that they are the woman for you, then they freak out and change their mind and throw you to the side like a piece of dirt on their shoe and break your heart into a million pieces. Then you go into a depressive, non-sleeping, @#$%ed up state of mind for however long it takes you to get over them!!

Oh,...I'm sorry, am I thinking outloud again???

 

[guitaronfire411]

I think there's confusion when it comes to what being "laid-back" means.

To me, it means:

- not caring what other people think of you
- making jokes to lighten up the mood (when appropiate)
- NOT sitting down, doing absolutely nothing with your life (ie. you have no friends)
- NOT caring about what you want to accomplish in life, or lacking fundamental goals or direction (ie. 'Create Yourself' - don't let others make you who you are)
- to stand up for yourself, to laugh at haters and others who have to act out of character to get women. They won't last.

Etc, etc.

Being a Don Juan is a lot of hard work. It's not just buying materialistic goods and showing off. In fact, it's largely, in my opinion, about finding your inner self and not being afraid of the unknown.

 

[Vince]

Originally posted by joekerr31
i find the opposite. i find women like the fact that ive got it together. to be honest, i find in your early 30s theres a plethora of late 20s early 30s women out there that are scared to death that they wont ever have kids and will do anything for a man whose got himself together.

i think perhaps your problem is that your mixing up laid back with boring?

women still want a man who is filled with passion.

thats why women love a man with a sense of humor. it shows that his mind is still sharp and active.

if you're too laid back they cringe at the thought that you'll be one of those lay around on the couch all day eating potatoe chips type of guys.

J

agreed!!!

 

[wheelin&dealin]

A "laid-back" personality doesn't work! You have to take initiative and get what you want. Women want men who know what they want and go for it.. not someone who just goes whichever way the wind blows them. You have to suck it up and get it going, no other way around it.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Let's stick to the old formula of compatible relationships: Like attracts Like

 

[Chrispy]

I like what wheelin&dealin said - you could be laid back even with approaching. You can't get women if you don't approach and say 'hi.'

I can relate because I too take things more in stride and am less emotional and less reactive. Just remember not to be too "unreactive" around women because that can tend to make you out to be a snoozer.

Also, adding to what DonJuanMonk said, maybe your batch of girls aren't as laid back and easy going. Like certainly attracts like.