"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Old Tampon Turning Things Around

Colin O'Brien

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^ Doesn't that seem like a newspaper headline or something? Business section?

Anyway,
Back in my pre-DJ days, there was a girl I was a major AFC with. I was the emotional tampon, blah blah. Well now that those days are long gone, she suddenly has turned the tables around... I'm getting the impression she wants me. Bad.

I mean, I was a pretty major AFC to her. Are there any reported cases of this happening to you guys? I want to know if I should bother..
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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KontrollerX

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LOL @ you calling yourself a tamp0n.

In anycase dude since you are young you can go ahead and go for her for experience sake but in the future if you are ever in hard times and revert to AFC status and some chick doesn't dig you but then you get back on your feet and go DJ again and she's suddenly all over you thats a low quality woman for your life as she didn't like you in your lowest moment which shows she won't be there for you in your relationship when it counts.

A girl like this is only there when its good for her as she is only in love with the good moments and not the totality of who you are.

Disregard the above advice though if there is a new chick in addition to her that you've met since becoming a DJ that wants you just as bad.

Instead forget the old chick and go for the new one since being involved with a chick who knew you when you were an AFC and rejected you can cause you to revert to your old AFC mindset or start to see you in that light and not fully acknowledge you as the DJ that you now are weakening your new life and beliefs and weakening you as a man.
 

In Motion

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Yea, some girls like guys that just sit there and listen to what they say while you stutter out some incomprehensible words. And she thought you were so sweeeeeet and cute right?
 

Kidd

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bro go for it and tap that ass, just whatever you do you must not show any emotion that you might have towards her, cause once she thinks she has you she will lose all interest. basically, be a little cold and aloof towards her , and it will help keep her interest.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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