"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Old problem, new info

Dazz

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Well, about 5 months ago, I wrote about my one-itis problem (http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=116078)
and some new stuff has happened, it turns out after I revealed myself, a few weeks later, she comes up to me and says "Daniel, we really want to get to know eachother, do you have any time?". I told her that I did, but we never spoke again. In the hallways, our eyes meet, and we both look away. These past few weeks, I have been working on my DJing skills, and they seem to be improving. I'm getting better at holding convo's with a girl, something I had never done before. Anyway, her grandfather died a few days ago, and I sent her a letter of sympathy to her and her cousin(who is a friend of mine). Turns out that EVERYONE in the funeral read the letter, and her parents told HER she should go out with me. The only thing is...what now? I guess i'll have to wait and see. The last thing is that if you look on the other thred, you can see how many people told me to give up. I didn't, and now I still have a chance! That goes to show ya, do what you think is right, not what others think.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Morphiex

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well if your looking for info on what to do... then i would say just make a move but nothing romantic , ask her if she wants to hang out on a spesific day , do not say someday cuz it seems to me it will be another thing that both of you decide to ignore and then become more awkward. If you know of a cool place liek maby a pool shooting area , bowling pherhaps ... something fun and relaxed.
If you feel it would be too awkward to be alone with her , you can go with the natural :"hey me and my mates are going bowling on *day* and i thought you might want to come." get some mutual friends together and go to bowling.

But all in all just make a move , i would say the latter one since it seems you two dont know each other that well . and she doesnt feel relaxed enough around you yet. show her a good time have some pleasant discussions , show her how fun you are with your friends and such.... if it goes well then ask her out for a fun date with just you two.

but also stop putting her on a pedastal , i dont mean treat her like any woman , just dont treat her like shes a princess.... dont go out of your way to do **** for her buy **** or stuff like that...
 

theunflushables

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First thing you need to do, is act with discrestion. Her grandpa just died, so now is not the time to go full game because you run the risk of being pegged and A-hole. Be subtle in your game. Don't try anything to brazen for a while. Death can F things up, so be careful where you tread.
 
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