"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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speedo_meme

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ok, long story short, i can't get my d*ck hard. I can have a rock hard erection right up until we're about to have sex but I then I lose it. Seems the only way for me to get it up is for her to suck it awhile, and I think she get tired of that.

I've NEVER had this problem before, except maybe a few cases of stagefright. What's the problem here? I know it's probly 100% mental, but d*mn, I've been f*cking her for a while now and I'm pretty comfortable with her, but everytime we're about to do it I start thinking about going limp and then I do.

Anybody know any ways to combat this?

I'm 25, and I KNOW I'm not impotent. Strictly mental....
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by speedo_meme
everytime we're about to do it I start thinking about going limp and then I do.
At the risk of sounding oxymoronic - stop thinking about it.
 

superchristx

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me too

Hey, uh, I have this problem too. Not that I'm afraid its gonna happen so it happense, I just don't have a lot of blood flowing. No real solution, except that I perform better if I haven't tossed off for a few days. I also like to enter in sidesaddle, since you're both laying down, and there isn't a specific moment where it's like "put it it NOW" you stick her when you're ready.
 

superchristx

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me too

Hey, uh, I have this problem too. Not that I'm afraid its gonna happen so it happense, I just don't have a lot of blood flowing. No real solution, except that I perform better if I haven't tossed off for a few days. I also like to enter in sidesaddle, since you're both laying down, and there isn't a specific moment where it's like "put it it NOW" you slip her when you're ready.
 

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stage fright

thats all it is. Best thing to do is lay back and relax and if that doesnt work there's always that tiny blue pill that works wonders.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is it possible that you're just not attracted to her?
 

PRMoon

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Sounds like a good old case of performance anxiety.
 

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i know this sounds kinda weird, but if its like a half hard-on, push it downwards towards your thigh while kegeling. it will harden up like a motherf*cker. But this doesn't work if you are completely limp.

I have noticed that for every guy (well, at least all my mates), there is one thing that will get him totally hard. For me, it was touching my gf's pvssy. find yours.
 

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i had this problem when i was with this freaky chick. at first, everything was okay; we ****ed three or more times a day w/ no limp ***k. after about a couple of weeks, i wouldn't get hard. yep, it sucks and i know how you feel. but after reading sex book about this condition, it mentioned that the major reason behind an erection is arousal. i realized i wasn't aroused (getting hard) because i got off three times a day or more for two weeks straight. i needed to cut down and maintain some reserves so that my arousal level would go up again. this solved my problem and hopefully it'll solve yours. let a couple of days go by without getting off and let that tension build. i'm sure you'll be able to get it up now when you see your girl w/ all that arousal/tension built up
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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