"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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speedo_meme

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ok, long story short, i can't get my d*ck hard. I can have a rock hard erection right up until we're about to have sex but I then I lose it. Seems the only way for me to get it up is for her to suck it awhile, and I think she get tired of that.

I've NEVER had this problem before, except maybe a few cases of stagefright. What's the problem here? I know it's probly 100% mental, but d*mn, I've been f*cking her for a while now and I'm pretty comfortable with her, but everytime we're about to do it I start thinking about going limp and then I do.

Anybody know any ways to combat this?

I'm 25, and I KNOW I'm not impotent. Strictly mental....
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by speedo_meme
everytime we're about to do it I start thinking about going limp and then I do.
At the risk of sounding oxymoronic - stop thinking about it.
 

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me too

Hey, uh, I have this problem too. Not that I'm afraid its gonna happen so it happense, I just don't have a lot of blood flowing. No real solution, except that I perform better if I haven't tossed off for a few days. I also like to enter in sidesaddle, since you're both laying down, and there isn't a specific moment where it's like "put it it NOW" you stick her when you're ready.
 

superchristx

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Hey, uh, I have this problem too. Not that I'm afraid its gonna happen so it happense, I just don't have a lot of blood flowing. No real solution, except that I perform better if I haven't tossed off for a few days. I also like to enter in sidesaddle, since you're both laying down, and there isn't a specific moment where it's like "put it it NOW" you slip her when you're ready.
 

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stage fright

thats all it is. Best thing to do is lay back and relax and if that doesnt work there's always that tiny blue pill that works wonders.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Is it possible that you're just not attracted to her?
 

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Sounds like a good old case of performance anxiety.
 

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i know this sounds kinda weird, but if its like a half hard-on, push it downwards towards your thigh while kegeling. it will harden up like a motherf*cker. But this doesn't work if you are completely limp.

I have noticed that for every guy (well, at least all my mates), there is one thing that will get him totally hard. For me, it was touching my gf's pvssy. find yours.
 

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i had this problem when i was with this freaky chick. at first, everything was okay; we ****ed three or more times a day w/ no limp ***k. after about a couple of weeks, i wouldn't get hard. yep, it sucks and i know how you feel. but after reading sex book about this condition, it mentioned that the major reason behind an erection is arousal. i realized i wasn't aroused (getting hard) because i got off three times a day or more for two weeks straight. i needed to cut down and maintain some reserves so that my arousal level would go up again. this solved my problem and hopefully it'll solve yours. let a couple of days go by without getting off and let that tension build. i'm sure you'll be able to get it up now when you see your girl w/ all that arousal/tension built up
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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