She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
My area is known for artsy counter-culture. People, including community guys, pride themselves on not knowing about sports, celebrities and popular music. I've been saying that we should try to learn about these common interests to give us material to talk about in set, especially if we are going for party gals. What do you think? Should a guy keep his ignorance or educate himself about mainstream culture and thereby dilute his uniqueness>switch said:*does not know Jay-z*
*does not recognize billie holiday*
....speechless at his own ignorance
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It seems like it bothers you a little bit that she might not recognize him. For what it's worth I have never listened to a whole Jay Z song all the way through on purpose, I likely pass by anything on the television with him being interviewed, and don't even listen to his type of music. I would absolutely recognize him if I saw him, especially if we were on camera, and definitely if we talked. This lady didn't and she's better off than me for it.gringoverde said:As far as the lady not being "plugged into pop culture," I think that most of us wouldn't imagine seeing Jay-Z on the train even if we met someone who looked or acted like him. She might even recognize his music, but just not have watched enough music videos/interviews to know his face.
Game artsy counter-culture girls.My area is known for artsy counter-culture. People, including community guys, pride themselves on not knowing about sports, celebrities and popular music. I've been saying that we should try to learn about these common interests to give us material to talk about in set, especially if we are going for party gals. What do you think? Should a guy keep his ignorance or educate himself about mainstream culture and thereby dilute his uniqueness>
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
:cuss:My opinion, people need to realize that Kanye West, Jay Z, all the other dudes are the new Beatles and rolling stones of today.
Rap isn't really evolving. I've never been a huge fan but grew up with it and even a non-fan can tell it used to be much better.Idk just my opinion, I think it's cool to see how music has evolved and how it's evolving, my thinking is that the people who hate it are the minority and no one cares about them
Can't tell if this is sarcasm or not. People like you are why America is such a celebrity d!ck worshipping country. Who gives a fvck if not everyone recognizes or cares for jayz's photograph, the fact that it bothers you....lolgringoverde said:Yeah, FairShake, it bothers me that this old lady doesn't recognize Jay-Z. It's like she think that she's better than the rest of us or something. I understand not being plugged into pop culture, but she'd have seen the cameras with him. You'd think that she'd at least have the courtesy to ask for his autograph!
I like artsy counter-culture girls. My favorites are crazy Latina gals. However, as a Seattle activity organizer, I've found it's easier to get a group together to sarge a night club that an art gallery. Also, I haven't gotten nearly as many make-outs at art galleries and social dances as I have at night clubs.
I assume (hope?) you're kidding.gringoverde said:Yeah, FairShake, it bothers me that this old lady doesn't recognize Jay-Z. It's like she think that she's better than the rest of us or something. I understand not being plugged into pop culture, but she'd have seen the cameras with him. You'd think that she'd at least have the courtesy to ask for his autograph!
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.