"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Old friends think I'm nuts

SamMalone

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Seriously. If I go off on a tirade about free thinking and stereotypes, they think I'm being crazy and that I'm having a breakdown. They say I act like a different person (which I take as a compliment). Share your thoughts on this.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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maybe you shouldn't go off on tirades, and just be content w/ living 'it.'
 

SamMalone

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Well I didn't mean I go into a room and start shouting, my bad if that's what it sounded like, but if the subject of this comes up in a discussion they think I had a troubled youth or I have a screw loose. Is it just because guy like on this board think outside the box? Are funny reactions to us the norm?
 

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Being a free thinker and announcing such thoughts loudly can be seen as a challenge and threat to other people's belief systems.

Maybe tone it down a couple of notches when talking to them and just be content to chill with them, without trying to assert your beliefs so much (maybe they think you're trying to impose your beliefs on them if you continually go off on tirades).

When the topic comes up, you can still state your beliefs, but do it calmly and maybe even quietly, stick to the general tone and spirit of the conversation, and don't get worked up. If they disagree, then listen to their side of the argument. I think it's just mainly the tirade part that's getting you these funny reactions.
 

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do not care much about what others think.the thing is do you think you are on the wrong way or the right way?just answer this question as honestly as possible.may the spirit with you bro.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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