"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Old friend giving sexual hints

pinhas

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Hey guys, I have a situation that requires some expert DJ advice;

I have a female friend who is older then me by about 6 years. We met in college and became good friends, I never really liked her as more then a friend, and I don’t think she liked me in that way either. She moved to a different country after a while, and we kept in touch, only seeing each other once or twice a year for short periods of time. Nothing ever happened, but every time we met, she always told me how good I looked and how I keep getting better and better looking as I mature.

Fast forward to now, she is back in NYC for vacation and we met up a few times and hung out. She keeps touching me when we talk and laughs at everything I say, the compliments keep coming and if it would be any other girl, I would definitely say there are some serious IOI’s from her.

The problem is that I am not sure, and I don’t want to try anything under the worng pretences and mess up our friendship. She is a mature girl that likes sex and does not shy away from it, so I might be misinterpreting it as her just being flirty.

Today we spoke on the phone, and she just woke up with her friend (who is also very good looking) and I playfully said “I’m jealous” to which she responded “don’t worry you will wake up with us one day as well”.

We are going for drinks later, and she said she wants to get really drunk. Now I am confused at this situation. I know her for almost 5 years now, and we never really had any sexual tension (no that I felt anyway). I would love to sleep with her, but not at the expense of us being friends.

How do I approach this? How do I find out if her behavior is just playfulness or does she really want to sleep with me?

Any help would be great.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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HariPoter13

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Tell her youve been having sexual fantasies of her lately. (really, i see no other way than being blunt about it)
 

PlaysToWin

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Option A: Ask her.

Option B: Just try and f*ck her and if she stops you then just say that you misinterpreted your signals and just laugh it off. She's hardly going to be offended that you tried to have sex with her and as long as you're not weird about it, you'll stay friends. But my gut says she won't be stopping you. Those signals seem crystal clear from what you've descrbed.

And btw, I think option B is best not to mention a lot more fun.
 

SmoothTalker

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I'd say make a move. If she's mature and open with her sexuality as you say I'm sure that even if she doesn't feel the same (which I think she does) she would be able to handle a come on well enough to not ruin the friendship.
 

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I think you guys are right; I should go for it and see what happens.

We are going out tonight and she is bringing a friend, and I think ill bring one or two as well, just to make it more of a social atmosphere since we are going to be in a bar anyway.

I will make a move, and if I get shot down I can always blame it on the alcohol and just laugh it off.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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shaunuk

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Yeap, again just go for it. If she knocks you back - so what? Shrug it off. She sounds fun etc. so doesn't sound like it'll be awkward from then on.

Also sounds like your chances of fvcking her are good as well. Give it a shot mate.
 
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