"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Old friend giving sexual hints

pinhas

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Hey guys, I have a situation that requires some expert DJ advice;

I have a female friend who is older then me by about 6 years. We met in college and became good friends, I never really liked her as more then a friend, and I don’t think she liked me in that way either. She moved to a different country after a while, and we kept in touch, only seeing each other once or twice a year for short periods of time. Nothing ever happened, but every time we met, she always told me how good I looked and how I keep getting better and better looking as I mature.

Fast forward to now, she is back in NYC for vacation and we met up a few times and hung out. She keeps touching me when we talk and laughs at everything I say, the compliments keep coming and if it would be any other girl, I would definitely say there are some serious IOI’s from her.

The problem is that I am not sure, and I don’t want to try anything under the worng pretences and mess up our friendship. She is a mature girl that likes sex and does not shy away from it, so I might be misinterpreting it as her just being flirty.

Today we spoke on the phone, and she just woke up with her friend (who is also very good looking) and I playfully said “I’m jealous” to which she responded “don’t worry you will wake up with us one day as well”.

We are going for drinks later, and she said she wants to get really drunk. Now I am confused at this situation. I know her for almost 5 years now, and we never really had any sexual tension (no that I felt anyway). I would love to sleep with her, but not at the expense of us being friends.

How do I approach this? How do I find out if her behavior is just playfulness or does she really want to sleep with me?

Any help would be great.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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HariPoter13

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Tell her youve been having sexual fantasies of her lately. (really, i see no other way than being blunt about it)
 

PlaysToWin

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Option A: Ask her.

Option B: Just try and f*ck her and if she stops you then just say that you misinterpreted your signals and just laugh it off. She's hardly going to be offended that you tried to have sex with her and as long as you're not weird about it, you'll stay friends. But my gut says she won't be stopping you. Those signals seem crystal clear from what you've descrbed.

And btw, I think option B is best not to mention a lot more fun.
 

SmoothTalker

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I'd say make a move. If she's mature and open with her sexuality as you say I'm sure that even if she doesn't feel the same (which I think she does) she would be able to handle a come on well enough to not ruin the friendship.
 

pinhas

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I think you guys are right; I should go for it and see what happens.

We are going out tonight and she is bringing a friend, and I think ill bring one or two as well, just to make it more of a social atmosphere since we are going to be in a bar anyway.

I will make a move, and if I get shot down I can always blame it on the alcohol and just laugh it off.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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shaunuk

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Yeap, again just go for it. If she knocks you back - so what? Shrug it off. She sounds fun etc. so doesn't sound like it'll be awkward from then on.

Also sounds like your chances of fvcking her are good as well. Give it a shot mate.
 
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