old dude warning about getting married on YouTube.

[AureliusMaximus]

I'm thinking he's getting the beta provider treatment.

But women do put guys in the two categories and if she looks to him a desirable man who she really wants aka. the alphas type/ strong leader / real man etc. with options (A dear child, have many names), she will treat him differently. Women will rather share a winner than date loser kind of thing...

But yeah, I'm not for marriage either; it has lost its purpose and with hostile family laws etc. feminism, me2, the government giving women multiple reasons to divorce grape you so you lose most of your ****e - it just not worth it.
Thoughts?

 

[SW15]

He looks like a beta provider type just in the thumbnail without even watching the video.

I've made it into my early 40s and haven't gotten married. USA divorce laws are very male unfriendly.

A good percentage of first marriages end in divorce. That's true when it is a first marriage for both partners. It's an even higher percentage if one partner is on a 2nd marriage.

 

[jhonny9546]

Is the term "marriage" referring just a long-term relationship, or does it also mean having kids with a woman? I think that is the same.


This guy is speaking from his own experience, which may be valid, but there are exceptions. Some women stay loyal and respectful to high-value men.
For me, becoming truly high-value feels hard.
But once I get there and attract many women, I’ll choose the one who respects me and treats me like a king.

And at her first disrespectful thing I let her know there will be no second one.
Problem solved. You don't need 26 years togheter

 

[AureliusMaximus]

A good percentage of first marriages end in divorce.

Yeah...
Around 50-60% in the first year of marriage from what I read/heard.
It is also the women that 75% of the divorce cases that are the initiator of it and filing for divorce.

 

[justaroundthecorner]

The guy was in some lousy relationship then entered lousy marriage and then decided to evaluate whole institution on his experience.

What's the point? Do you think CHAD would share the same experience of marriage with his woman? I seriously doubt that.

 

[pipeman84]

Just look at him, that haircut ... the guys reeks of soy and low test.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Do you think CHAD would share the same experience of marriage with his woman? I seriously doubt that.

Well even the high value "alpha" or "chad" guy in lack of better words can fall into the trap of losing their frame through the concept of "Betatization by a thousand concessions". We're (us guys here) are not invulnerable to it as it requires constant personal maintenance and energy to maintain it.


and so ....

and it often begins with marriage.

 

[The Duke]

Check out his other videos.

Same guy here?

 

[BaronOfHair]

As has been discussed on this site more than once:

Unless a man and a woman have had kids + Built a life together, marriage makes less sense than the armed forces of Taiwan trying to fend off the inevitable invasion by China, while armed with nothing but empty Super Soakers

 

[DJ Novice]

‘Happy wife Happy life’ is the worst piece of advice ever given to guys. You can never make a woman happy. Your happiness is primarily your own responsibility.

Women will never be happy as they always focus on what they currently don’t have and their emotions can conspire against them. It’s a losing proposition to try and make them happy. Focus on your own happiness instead.

You must be constantly on guard against betatisation in a relationship. All guys are vulnerable to it because it happens gradually like a frog in a pot of water that is slowly being boiled. It happened to me in my marriage. It’s just another form of the Happy wife Happy life situation.

Once you lose your frame and surrender it to your partner (which is essentially what betatisation is) she will despise you for what you have become and it’s a countdown to the end of the relationship.

As for marriage, it’s only worth considering if you want to have kids, understand there’s still a 50% chance of failure and get a prenup to protect yourself. Otherwise avoid it like the plague.

 

[pipeman84]

As for marriage, it’s only worth considering if you want to have kids, understand there’s still a 50% chance of failure and get a prenup to protect yourself.

That's one of the biggest nonsense I see that gets repeated on and on as an argument against marriage. You mean to tell me that marrying a 35yrs old woman who's gone through her 'party girl' phase and 2 divorces has the same 50% chance of failure as marrying a 22yrs old virgin?
Considering a prenup alone is highly indicative of the fact that it's not a proper marriage and the chance of failure is much higher than 50%.

 

[jhonny9546]

The guy was in some lousy relationship then entered lousy marriage and then decided to evaluate whole institution on his experience.

What's the point? Do you think CHAD would share the same experience of marriage with his woman? I seriously doubt that.

Even as an average looking, short guy, not a “Chad”, I’ve had plenty of women (married/engaged with or without kids, young and older) make advances toward me, some very openly, in specifi occasions, in specific moments of their life.
I accepted once, but quickly realized that lifestyle isn’t for me. Now I turn them down and keep things friendly.


I’m not rich or tall like their partners, but I’ve learned something important: women don’t necessarily care about being in a relationship when they decide they want someone else. They can start over emotionally at any time, without guilt.
That showed me that marriage today is not a necessity for a man, but only for a woman "social image".
The best path for a man is to have multiple respectful, long term relationships with women who treat him like a king over his life path. And the moment that respect fades, you replace her.
At her fault, not yours.


Men, instead of complaining, we should learn from women, build ourselves up so we can “start from zero” anytime, just like they do.
That is the hardest thing for us, since we're actually the sex who take things sentimental, emotional and deep.

 

[JustDoItAlways2]

Instead of getting married, one should just have a steady girl who likes to fvck alot and where you keep separate households. Yeah, you still do all the boyfriend stuff and keep her properly romanced but you are not under threat of losing half of your stuff in a divorce. And when the relationship is over, you just find another girl who likes this kind-of attachment. There are actually lots of women now who like this situation.

 

[jhonny9546]

There are actually lots of women now who like this situation.

Given your age, you found many of them where actually single moms?

 

[Scaramouche]

Instead of getting married, one should just have a steady girl who likes to fvck alot and where you keep separate households. Yeah, you still do all the boyfriend stuff and keep her properly romanced but you are not under threat of losing half of your stuff in a divorce. And when the relationship is over, you just find another girl who likes this kind-of attachment. There are actually lots of women now who like this situation.

Hi JustDoIt,
You have found Lifes secret...Together living apart,with Plates on the side,keeps a relationship young,vital,dynamic!...The good news is,that as you age there are more and more likely Ladies.

 

[Scaramouche]

Given your age, you found many of them where actually single moms?

Hi Jhonnie,
For me always,but the same Kids whose jealousy destroyed your relationships when younger,will help things down the line,as Women need outlets for their emotions in your absence.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Hi Jhonnie,
For me always,but the same Kids whose jealousy destroyed your relationships when younger,will help things down the line,as Women need outlets for their emotions in your absence.

Thanks Scaramouche.
What is the like the best advice you can give to young guns like most of us there?

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Aurelius,
Best advice "...Marry in haste,repent at leisure",and heed Rollos advice,never even consider marriage unless you want and are prepared for Kids.

 

[jhonny9546]

For me always,but the same Kids whose jealousy destroyed your relationships when younger,will help things down the line,as Women need outlets for their emotions in your absence.

As an italian, i don't understand the meaning of your words.
What do you mean?
Sorry for my bad english comprehension

 

[Scaramouche]

As an italian, i don't understand the meaning of your words.
What do you mean?
Sorry for my bad english comprehension

Hi Jhonny,
No apologies,my Italian is limited to a few words picked up from the Inspector Montelbano TV show .....As the Older Posters all know,the biggest problem in part time relationships is their wretched Kids...the little monsters do everything in their power to destroy your relationship as their Mother will pay less attention to them...They are Jealous...Later on when Folk are older,the Lady will get bored with staring at the wall in your absence and want more and more time, pressure you to move in together,having Children gives her something to do,to think about and work to keep her busy,Capisci?