OLD distance

[Hoodie]

Distance is my personal dislike of OLD, I usually get likes and matches from people far away, probably due to living in a small city.
With an already busy schedule, driving hours every time you want to spend time with someone, is a no for me.
Living close by makes it 1000% more practical.

 

[sevbucmash]

Search is by radius which you set -- Why would you be getting likes from people from far away?

 

[Barrister]

Like you, I am in a small metro area so there are options nearby but I match with a lot of women 30-40 miles away as well. It certainly is an extra layer of inconvenience. When I use OLD, 30 miles away is my absolute max (which where I live is realistically probably a 45 minute drive one way) -- but I am only going that far if she is very good looking or we are building good rapport.

If I sense any flakiness at all, I won't go that far. This is one of the many benefits of cold approach over OLD.

 

[Bigpapa]

How about moving to the city and move back to where you live now when you want to settle down?

living in non metro areas is far from ideal for dating

 

[Solomon]

Distance is my personal dislike of OLD, I usually get likes and matches from people far away, probably due to living in a small city.
With an already busy schedule, driving hours every time you want to spend time with someone, is a no for me.
Living close by makes it 1000% more practical.

I live in a small city but in a great spot as most of the major highways come through my city, but 13 miles away from a midsize city, logistics IMO are the most important thing when it comes to online dating distance and a woman's availability. I have met girls this year who live as close as a 5 minute ride away from me, to women who drove 3.5 hours to see me. Not saying this to brag but you have to weight the pros and cons with distance and availability etc. Personally in the last 5 years I have driven twice to see women who live an hour or more away. The first was not worth it at all, the 2nd was defitnely worth it but due to distance it doesn't work. Most women who live further away ime tend to be 1 and done

 

[Solomon]

Distance is my personal dislike of OLD, I usually get likes and matches from people far away, probably due to living in a small city.
With an already busy schedule, driving hours every time you want to spend time with someone, is a no for me.
Living close by makes it 1000% more practical.

To give advice

1. Move closer to a bigger city you don't have to live in THE city per se but living 15-30 minutes tops will increase your dating life drastically
2. Have women drive to you 90% won't but the 10% is what you want to focus on
3. Take a break from dating until your schedule clears up, then go hard

Dating should be fun---no one wants to waste most of their time on a commute, especially on a first date where statistically speaking 80-90% of the time you won't see them again