old crush kinda back in touch

[thehedonistman]

Hi DJs! My first post, i'm from mumbai, india 23yo.

This really cute girl (kinda short thin not much of a fig but beautiful face and hair) moved into my building, she's 18-19 and im 23. So when she was new around here i saw her walking around and then eventually said a small lame "hi" and then around 3rd time after the "hi" i straight away ask her out, to which she said "where?" I just replied "a movie or something" and she smiled and said "ok, fine, ill come" and i took her number right then. The next day onwards i texter her a few times and mostly started flaking about having classes or something (which could be true) then i just stopped asking again. (should you ever bring it up that she had said yes then she didnt come? its mostly no i guess that'd be too overt i feel)

Then in a few weeks after a chit chat while running into one another I again asked to come to the beach, this time she threw up an excuse to go her other house somewhere in the city.

Later since she's 18 she kind of hangs around kids 12-15yo (only in the building) and they would play treasure hunt and stuff during which i guess kind of pussied out a lot and gave her too much attention by hanging around once i used to get back from work and we just talked sometimes, i texted a bit giving lame compliments etc.

Then eventually i just thought she's a kind AW and went no contact. And now i think it's been around 2-3 months i had stopped even saying hi and stuff or maybe would just throw a glance at most. Also started reading rollo tomassi's therationalmale since 2months which gave a good game footing.

So today again i was kind of just sitting around and she happens to cross by so i just called her out as "hermoine" she being a huge hp fan and all (chump move right? trying to be funny about what she likes!) and she made some funny remark about me "just sitting around with no work" to which i just replied that i'm chaging my career from software to marketing/PR which i am and i asked her to come sit beside me which she refused..but what's interesting is she kind of stopped by to talk after a long time and i've been working out all this while so maybe i look a lil better now

I'll just stop here and ask for your comments..thanks!

 

[VladPatton]

She wants nothing more than small talk, and has no interesting in dating you. Be polite, say hi, and chalk it up to a loss, she doesn't wanna play. Look for better prospects, don't wast your time thinking about her, she's not wasting any thinking about you.

 

[thehedonistman]

thank for the response

I would like some more analysis what i did wrong in this enitre gaming process.

If people are just looking at this as an oneitis problem, it's simple not. I'm still trying to spin plates with whoever I can.