Old College Male Friend

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

dfk1526

New Member

Nov 27, 2007

My girlfriend of almost a year recently re-connected with an old college,
male friend. She hasn't really seen much of him - but he keeps texting,
calling and asking her out. She said he knows about me, and she says she's
not interested in him. I still get uncomfortable when he calls. Should I
just let it go? or should I tell her what I'm feeling? The problem is -
she's not creating this, she's not calling him and I don't think she is
encouraging him either. I guess I'd like her to DIScourage him.

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.