"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Old chickens coming home to roost.

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Some Call Me Tim said:
This girl in high school I knew contributed most out of anybody to my AFC qualities. I was definitely not special. She's very very attractive, but she knows it, and she strung me along like anything. We were bestest of friends for 3 years, and like a patient little dog I waited for something more, that never came.

She would always flirt with me, and make me feel like I was the only one. I pushed away all the suspicions that there were others like me, or that she was using me for attention. I had myself convinced I was special, when really I was taking a number and waiting my turn like every guy.

I moved away, and she kept her hook in me, she'd never call me, but i'd always call her every so often. She'd always be glad to here from me, but I came to realise her bullsh1t.

She's poison, and I know it. She's written to me on fb, having not heard from her in 6 months. Knowing her, something isn't going well and she needs a friend. The message reads:

hello my little fairy ♥ been too long child, how you been? how did exams go? tried calling you, but some china woman answered :p was that you?

x

When I read it, my heart was in my throat, like it always was when she'd skim me off a little piece of attention. I'm thoroughly back where I started, and needed some fresh perspective on this. How do I respond, if it's a good idea to respond at all?
Honesty, I don't really understand what your problem is?? It sounds like there is this hot girl, you like her but she only likes you as a friend so why all the drama about this? I don't get it. I really don't get it.

You have a few options: continue to be her "friend" and accept you'll never date her; make sexual advances towards her and hope she flips out of the friend stage; or dump her as a friend because you can't handle it.

Thats all.

If you can stop being a p*ssy about all this you can probably have some fun with her. Send her some sexual messages, see her response, laugh about it. Wash rinse repeat and not care.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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