Old bf is coming back

[Rata Blanca]

Sup guys.....

I haven't been here in a while but I have some relationship issues right now....I met this girl and we're in a really good relationship and have been for a couple months. I basically would like to stay in the relationship and im pretty sure she does also......

So here's the problem: she's always been totally honest to me and so she told me about her ex b4 me.
Look for Pook's posts, learn ********

So anyways......she told me that right now he wants to see her again and visit her and sh1t and that he still loves her--- I cant be there to watch her because of finals and work........How can I deal with this dude not interfering with our relationship, short of kicking his ass...

Thanks in advance

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[Remulak]

So are you implying that if a girl ever brings up their ex bf in any way they're still in love with them?

 

[Phyzzle]

Women say “stop being insecure” to keep you from pointing out the insulting, disrespectful things they do to harm the relationship. Remember: this isn’t a matter of your need for her, it’s a matter of her respect for you.

The key is to tell her what she’s doing wrong without phrasing it as a Demand or Ultimatum. When she says, “I’m going to have coffee with so and so, and he’ll show me some sights around town,” say, “You shouldn’t date other people when you have a boyfriend.”

She might try to argue, “it’s not a date.” “Great, then I can go with you guys, right?” “Um, er, . . . no, blah blah.” “So you need to be alone, so it’s a date, so you should break up with me 1st.”

Just calmly explain to her what you need: which is respect! If you can’t get it from her, you’ll get it somewhere else.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

You say this to her:

"Babe, I can't stop you from seeing him... if you're gonna do it, you're gonna do it, but know this; If this was just two old friends getting together to play "catch up", I would think that you would want me to be around to meet someone you spent alot of time with, in your past so that we could be introduced... but since this isn't the case, I'll let you decide what's best for us and in the mean time, I'll decide what's best for me. If you respect me, you'll decline his offer to meet... and if you don't then I'll go find someone who does."

 

[Big Eee Zee]

this was in may, it already happened by now