Okay.....

[backbreaker]

If your GF's friend hit on you and made it pretty blaient, and your GF some how did not know... would you tell your GF?

part of me says why bother.

part of me say somehow this will bite me in the ass if I don't.

 

[horaholic]

Of course you dont tell your GF! How could it possibly bite you in the ass if you dont?

 

[backbreaker]

fvck I don't know.

let's say she blabs her mouth when she's drunk or something saying she's been talking to me behind her back and I get confronted and i'm red handed becuase I didnt' say something?


I don't want the friend, i'm more uncomfortable and disgusted than anything else, they have been friends for a while. And I would hate to piss my GF off over soehting so stupid as to not telling her that her friend wanted to fvck me and it somehow came out and I look guilty becuase I didn't fess up.

But on the other hand, if i don't say something maybe it will all just go away.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Get used to women hitting on you. We are DJ's. Why tell any girlfriend? It's what happens to men like us. It's like breathing or taking a dump. Are you going to tell your girl about that too?

 

[wjh]

Get used to women hitting on you. We are DJ's. Why tell any girlfriend? It's what happens to men like us. It's like breathing or taking a dump. Are you going to tell your girl about that too?

Exactly.

Look at from this perspective:

Hey, if your GF's hot, she's getting hit on daily. Does she write you a detailed daily report? No.

When my GF's friends hit on me I just chuckle. There's a hint of jealousy from her, but what am I supposed to do? It's not a big deal, and I don't treat it as a big deal. If it's a big deal to my GF I'm obviously with an insecure girl. Sure, she should check her friends and evaluate how loyal they are to her, but if it's an obviously ugly girl way below your standards, then chances are it's just her fugly friend taking out her fantasy flirtations on an easily accessible guy. If the girlfriend is hot, take it as further confirmation of your game and move on with your life.

 

[STR8UP]

"Red handed" for what? Turning down a chick's advances?

Don't say anything.

Most of the time when women do this they are simply jockeying for social position within their female ranks or trying to make their own b/f jealous.

I wouldn't take it too seriously.

 

[Da Realist]

Tell her and get it out. The longer you keep the secret and she finds out, the worse it's going to be. If she thinks you and her friend are in league with each other in any way when she gets into a fight with her friend, it's hell for you because her hate for her former friend goes toward you also. If she's on good terms with her friend right now, tell her. If not, tell her before her friend does because its better to be on the side of the chasm your gf is on than the side her friend is on. You have to understand men will go confront what ever the problem is, but woman will torture the closest thing that can be linked to whatever is bothering them.

 

[backbreaker]

know what it is.

she's not unattractive at all, and I sorta put myself in a position to let myself be hit on, and I feel kinda dirty becuase of it.

 

[KontrollerX]

Sometimes women use their friends to test their man's loyalty.

Though your chick seems so cool I doubt thats what happened BB.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Get your gf to hit on the friend who hit on you. Your gf will do it to stay with you, and the other girl will do it to get to you. Then do them both at once.

It's really not that hard to do with most women. However, the friendship between your gf and the other woman will probably get awkward. When I was married, my wife went through several friends this way. I made out ok, though

 

[ketostix]

If it's her friend and you're not intrested in her, then I'm of the belief telling your GF can't hurt you. One it makes you look like you don't hiding anything so you'll be more easily able to hide the girls you do want, and two it DHV you. A little competition anxiety never hurts.

 

[penkitten]

let me tell you something:
guys don't trust anyone around their gf's except their best friend.
girls trust everyone around their bf's except their best friend.

so your gf probably already is jealous and just hasn't said anything yet.

 

[backbreaker]

This is grade A beta talk, my friend.

You do not worry about pissing off your girlfriend - or you will find yourself always supplicating to her because you are afraid of her potential reaction.

If she asked you if her friend hit on you, you say, half-jokingly, "jeez, which friend of yours HASN'T hit on me?"

Otherwise, let sleeping dogs lie.

what's beta is our pre concieved notion of what is "dJ" and what isn't

I've been in a relationsip with this woman for almost 3 years. we have a 1 and a half year old son together. Yes, I'm sorry if I care about her.


Hell even if I AM wrong, i'm not perfect. no one here is. we all have laspes of AFCism. we strive to always be a DJ but even the best of them lose it for a minute.


it's extremely "beta" to label somone beta off of 1 action, and frankely I just don't see how asking for advice becuaseI am honestly in a siutation I've neve been in, hll 'm ****ing 26 ears old cut me a break, s being "BETA"