Okay, WTF?

[Drowning]

Alright, here's the situation. I've been in a relationship for about a month and a half now. The girl I'm going out with has told me over and over how much she loves me and all that, but I've mostly played it off since...you know...teenagers don't really know what love is. I haven't said those three words to her since we've started going out, but she wants me to.

Now, all of a sudden she starts talking to her old boyfriend a lot. She tells me that he's "bringing up the past" and that "she's so confused" and basically using me as an emotional tampon. So, naturally, I get a little pissed off at this. She notices, and asks me why I've had "an attitude" recently. So, we start talking about it and ask her how she would feel if I started talking to an old girlfriend and saying that I still love my ex and all that. She comes back with: "Well, I would understand and not be jealous." or something similar and signs off.

She expects me to just stand back and watch this ****? WTF??? I'm trying to think of what a DJ would do in this situation. (And if anyone tries to tell me to "next" her I'm going to be even more pissed off. That's not what I want.) Should I just play it off? Should I give her an ultimatum? What?

I'm leaning towards just going back to trying to play it cool, but I'm not sure if it would work.

 

[Tooms]

okay, this exact same thing happened to a kid i know. how did it turn out? he did nothin, tried to play it off, and she dumped him for her old bf! dont confront her alone, confront the both of them, just not at the same time/place of course. if her old bf starts givin u sh_t, dont take it, u come off as the stronger one, and things should sway in your favor

 

[Tooms]

o yea forgot to say, an ultimatum would be good, thats a good thought u have there

 

[Drowning]

I thought I'd point out that I've never met her ex. Also, an ultimatum may sound like a good idea, but it might just push her away.

 

[JSH]

Originally posted by Drowning
I thought I'd point out that I've never met her ex. Also, an ultimatum may sound like a good idea, but it might just push her away.

However, although laying down the law its kinda putting the ball in her court as its saying its your choice.

Also if she accepts it and walks away, then it was what she was going to do by cuckolding you anyway. You have to do somehting or you will lose this girl, so what you might lose her if you do something. It is the only way there is a chance of keeping her.

LAY DOWN THE LAW

 

[LikRetsam]

Sigh... She's trying to exert control over you and you're playing right into it. Chick will always test this. This is her retarded game reflecting her insecurities. I urge you to a) not give a **** which will get her normal with you within a week or 2 or b) Walk away and make her pay for her retarded games.

The choice is yours. I've been and seen this situation too many times to be wrong here.

 

[TyTe`EyEs]

Sigh... She's trying to exert control over you and you're playing right into it. Chick will always test this. This is her retarded game reflecting her insecurities. I urge you to a) not give a **** which will get her normal with you within a week or 2 or b) Walk away and make her pay for her retarded games.

The young one hits the nail on the head

 

[SuperFlex]

Why would you want to keep her if she's thinking about leaving you for her ex?

 

[NRM]

You tell her that you don't appreciate her talking to her old boyfriend and if she isn't willing to change for you then you don't want to be in a relationship with her.

This does a few things, your girlfriend is naturally supposed to make you happy or try her best to. You aren't crying about it, you just don't appreciate it, yes this does give her the choice, but if she picks the wrong one, then you already said you don't want to be in a relationship with her.

When she does something you don't like, call her on it as soon as you can. If she likes you enough, she'll change. If she doesn't, she won't. You'd only do the same for her.

Don't give her the control, let her know what you want and what you expect. If she doesn't give it to you, it's your time to walk. If you act like you don't give a shit, then she'll continue talking to him as long as she enjoys the conversations she has with him, and overall, you're acting okay with it, since she tells you about the conversations they have.

 

[TheWanderer]

Just talk to her dude. Tell her you trust her and you know she'll make the right decision. If anything happens between her ex and her, then, dump her ass.

 

[Jerky Boi]

Hmm, I can't say that I've been in a situation before like this, but I've known a few guys that have. I wouldn't necessarily "next" her quite yet. If you want to save your time and hers, confront her. That's all I'm gonna say

 

[LikRetsam]

Don't next her. Lay down the law, say you don't like it, than be done with it. No more hard feelings about it. She does it again, BAM.